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Pushing off my back leg, my front knee goes up, extends, and my Nike-encased foot thrusts forward until it strikes the sidewalk cement. One leg, then the next, side by side, always moving forward. My body leans a little, but not too far - falling without falling, to find the perfect angle. I’m looking for a motion that is gentle and smooth, one that maximizes gravity and minimizes impact. My body sways with the swinging of my arms: right, left, right, left. I keep the arms relaxed, without tightening the hands into fists. My lungs fill, then breathe, exhaling through my mouth: in and out, in and out. I’m searching for a jogging rhythm, a mellow jazz sound, played by a cool quintet.

Joggers are a world unto themself. The running experience is internal, personal, and unique. The dynamics may be about anatomy in motion, but the reality is more spiritual, poetical, and musical. I’ve always wanted to write about jogging, but my desire would hit the wall when I began itemizing the mechanics of its actions. It was only during a recent jog, that I realized running wasn’t about mechanics, it was about metaphors. My Breathing is the drummer, my Hands and Arms, the piano player, my Legs, the trumpet, my Head and Body, the tenor saxophone, and my Heart is the bass. Jogging is a quintet, a jazz combo, a jazz ensemble playing Miles Davis.

Jogging is a jazz improvisation. On any day, one jogging musician or another is off. Some days the combo sounds great, other days it sucks. The point is to play, to run. The goal is to find the right rhythm, pace, sound, and groove. There is no difference between performing or rehearsing, it is only about running and playing. The beginning of a jog is always ragged; each player is an individual, suffering from his or her own unique aches, pains, insecurities, and problems. Legs are still bothered by the annoying pain in the gluteus maximus area. Breathing is unsure and indecisive, questioning if he should rely solely on his mouth to inhale and exhale, or practice using his nose. Today, the tenor sax and piano are insistent on rehearsing. They have not run in over a week, and the quintet is getting sloppy and out of shape. The Old Man of the group, the heart, the bass man, finally gets them moving, when he says, “Just run man, just play”. The trumpet sounds a clarion call, followed quickly by the piano and drums, and the quintet is off on an easy, mellow jog of six miles to the sound and rhythm of “Freddie Freeloader”.

The backside of a 6-mile run is always my favorite. It is here that my quintet will usually find its groove: where all five aspects of my body come together and soar. This is where I lose myself. This is where thinking and time stop. The thoughts in my head, the tenor sax, play a solo without the need for sound or music. This is the sweet spot of the jog. The point where running becomes a meditative experience, where there is no time or space – only music. However, at some timeless moment, the eyes of the sax man finally open, gazing out to the sidewalk ahead. He spies the fast approaching driveway of a mammoth mall and supermarket parking lot. He signals to the combo to bring the solo home, noting the need for a transition to a more conscious level of play. As a car leaps across his path, the drummer jumps up, and beats a battery of cacophonic riffs on the cymbals, snare, and bass drums. The session is over. The jogger halts, breathing heavily, alongside the intrusive vehicle, whose driver has never, once, looked in his direction, nor acknowledged his presence.

Drivers never stop at stop signs. They certainly never stop at the intersections of parking lot driveways and sidewalks. They glide right across stop lines, and right through sidewalks, without suspecting or acknowledging advancing pedestrians, joggers, or cyclists. Drivers look for other cars, but, they don’t notice people, and they don’t follow the law. I know this because I see it whenever I go jogging. I’m the invisible jogging man, the man drivers don’t see.

My favorite jogging routes are those that provide ceaseless running, without having to stop. I love running on the bike paths at Balboa Park, or Hanson Dam. They have no street crossings, fences, or signals to impede movement. I can run and not worry about cars, drivers, or traffic. It is pure physics and jazz, a rhythmic body gliding through space with no obstacles except time and gravity. Unfortunately, I do most of my running in and around my neighborhood. Although, I have selected routes that minimize the need for stopping, they don’t always work; this is the reality of street jogging. We have to watch, we have to listen, and we have to stop. Among veteran joggers, distraction such as earphones and Ipods are disdained. Joggers do their best to stay alert for potential hazards, dangers and careless drivers.

When jogging on the sidewalk, or by the side of the street, and I come to a parking lot driveway, or an intersection controlled by stop signs, I slow down, and become extremely wary. I am immediately alert for crossing traffic. When I see an advancing car, I begin searching the driver’s face, trying to make direct eye contact. If I catch their eye, the drivers will invariably, jam on the brakes and come to a jolting stop. By that time, the body of the car is usually in front of me, blocking my forward route. If there is enough room, I’ll raise my left arm in an appreciative salute (or warning signal), and move in front of the car, continuing my run. When I don’t make eye contact with the driver, I come to a total stop and watch, in bemused wonder. On those occasions, I have a court-level view of drivers being flagrantly careless, or committing blatant traffic violations. Too often, the drivers never “see” me, as they glide through the stop sign or driveway intersection, making their turn, and continuing on their way. Sometimes, they realize, too late, that they have completely cut me off, and stop in mid-driveway or street. In those cases, I usually just wave them along. I never really trust their judgment.

I stopped getting angry or frustrated at the poor driving habits of people on the road. I’ve come to the realization that jogging is its own reward, and should not be devalued by the carelessness of others. Being wary and alert does not preclude an enjoyable, fulfilling jog. Being present to ones surroundings actually enhances the run. Defensive jogging has made me a patient runner, and a more conscientious driver, when behind the wheel. I can’t control what other drivers do, I can only control myself.
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I found a diary that I began on February 26, 1974. The diary described 22 days in February and March (during the first oil crisis), when I was crazy in love. I was 27 years old, and in love for the first time in my life with the most enchanting and beautiful girl in the world. How could I not fall in love with this lovely, young beauty, named Kathleen Mavourneen? She had Las Vegas Showgirl legs and figure, with a gorgeous, beaming, Irish-American face. She was smart, fearless, caring, and funny. I knew I was in love after our third date.

The daily entries described how I missed her, and longed for her, but, at the same time, refused to show it, or admit it to myself. I called or visited her almost every day during those 22 days. I missed her and she missed me. We knew we were in love, but still unsure about Love. I would say the words, “I love you”, but still question the depth of its meaning. I was frustrated when we were unable to see each other for three days, then dazzled by her presence and beauty when we met. We had long talks when we met, and when we spoke on the telephone. These talks were comfortable and soothing conversations, with vulnerable honesty. However, telephone calls could not replace physical proximity, and they would only make her absences worse.

The days I described in these pages were days of contrasts and extremes. On many days, I was obsessed with thoughts and longings for Kathy, and on other days, I acted indifferently toward her. I was restless and impatient to see her, talk to her, hold and touch her. Yet, I would find myself, against my better judgment, trying to prove to myself that I was not completely bewitched by this clean limbed, high spirited girl.

As I read this long forgotten diary, I was struck by what a tumultuous time it was for Kathy and me! We were on roller coasters of desires, emotions, doubts, and fears, which sometimes went in opposite directions. It was also the period when our relationship reached its most critical point. Emotions and desires were moving so fast, faster than the rational mind could process or understand, that Kathy called a halt. In a lonely parking structure in Santa Monica, on a Sunday afternoon, Kathy’s uncertainty brought our relationship to a stop. Her doubts and confusion caught me by surprise, and I was stunned by my panic and fear. I could not envision existence without her in my life. I didn’t contradict her, I didn’t press her to reconsider, and I did not dismiss her feeling and doubts. Despite my fears, I gave her the freedom to choose, all the time praying that she would choose me. I stopped pretending cool detachment of my love and my need for Kathleen. I had to trust, and be confident of the love we had ignited and expressed to each other. Putting aside my wants, needs, and desires, I tried to demonstrate care, understanding, and love toward my beloved. By the end of the diary, our relationship began to mature, becoming more honest and open.

There was tons of emotional stuff in those 22 days. I tried to sift out some of the major themes and tendencies, but only one thing stood out; I was just crazy in love. Where did we go from that time in 1974? What happened from being crazy in love to now, going from 27 years of age to 59? Am I still crazy in love, today? No, thank God! I don’t think I could take that intensity of passion and desire again. It was all consuming. I couldn’t bear to be parted from Kathy in those days. I had to see, touch, or talk to her at least once a day. I was truly obsessed and in love. This was white-hot, passion. This was the steaming, molten lava type of love which can only cool after many, many years. The calming years was the time after we married: years of discovery, childbirths, parenting, wonders, challenges, and achievements. These were the middle age years that quieted the eruptions of passions and the desires of youth, and left a peaceful island of happiness and tranquility. Our marriage evolved into a family, a home, and a fulfilling life together.

Do I love Kathy like I did in 1974? Yes and No. If Love is a boundless capacity for joy, honesty, patience, and caring, the answer is yes. If love is obsessive desires and passions, the answer is no. I’m not besotted like I was in 1974. But I still cannot envision living without her. That has never changed. I can’t imagine a life without her presence – and I always “see” her as I remember her in 1974. That is the “imago”, the final image, of Kathy that is burned into my soul.

I remember a scene from a movie I saw called “The Four Poster”, with Rex Harrison and Lilli Palmer. The movie portrayed the married life of a man and woman through time, within the setting of their four poster bed and the bedroom. It is a love story through time, showing how Love evolves, grows, changes, and matures. In the last scene. Lilli Palmer, who dies earlier in the movie, appears to Rex Harrison, on his death bed. He notices that she looks exactly as she did when they first fell in love. She explains that this is how Love affects the soul, and it is how he will always “see” her. When Harrison dies, and rises from the four poster bed, he too is suddenly transformed into the handsome youth he was when first enchanted by Love.

So, perhaps, Love is eternal, and it magically transforms the amorphous soul into the “imago” of the person we fall in love with. I see aspects of that "imago" in Kathy all the time: when she turns and looks askance at me, when she laughs, the twinkle in her eyes, and when she soothes the pain and hurt of a family member or friend.

On this Valentine’s Day in 2007, all I can say is:

“I Love you, Kathleen Mavourneen, as much today as on the first day I Loved you”.

 
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The popularity of Web Logs (blogs), Web Diaries, or Web Journals has really surprised me. Technorati, an internet search engine for searching blogs, has tracked nearly 60 million blogs, as of November 2006. 60 million blogs! Did 60 million people write diaries and journals before the advent of the internet? “Ordinary” dairies and journals always seemed such archaic, personal, and difficult objects to maintain. The fact that so many people, especially young people, write public journals and diaries on the World Wide Web astounds me. Why do they do it? Why would people open themselves up to such public scrutiny? What is the purpose or function of Blogs? How do they differ from diaries and journals?

I once thought that only young girls, princesses, and British politicians or generals kept diaries; people like Anne Frank, Princess Anne, Winston Churchill, and the Duke of Wellington. Diaries seemed to be “girly” endeavors, or one practiced by eccentric foreigners, not manly Americans. Real men performed actions, women and Brits wrote about their hopes, dreams, and events they wished to memorialize. Although I must admit, I secretly envied people who kept diaries. I assumed that they had important things to say, report, or remember, while I did not.

I tried keeping a journal in 1966, the summer after my graduation from high school, and a diary in 1974, when I was finishing my post-graduate studies at UCLA. I failed at both attempts. I did not last more than two weeks at either endeavor. I would forget, have nothing to write for that day, or just lose interest. Making daily entries in a diary or journal seemed to require more discipline and devotion than I was willing to expend. I also believed that something important had to happen in order to record it, and most of my days were pretty ordinary and mundane. When I experienced truly exciting and remarkable events, I was usually too busy or too tired to report them. It was not until after I married Kathy, that I began to change my attitude toward journals.

It was in the days that we were settling into our first apartment, that I discovered Kathy had written many journals. Throughout high school and college, she had produced a variety of different journals. She had journals with her reflections, prayers, drawings, favorite sayings, or moving quotes. Kathy seemed to use journals as tools to explore herself, the world, and the people around her, through writing and art. She always seemed to have one in progress. I really admired her ability to do this, without pressure, constraints, or demands. She did not make journaling seem hard. Although she did not induce me to adopt the practice at that time, Kathy certainly planted the seeds that began to grow over time. Later in our marriage, Kathy again opened my eyes to the possibilities that journaling offered when I saw how she used it with her students, and our own two children, in class.

Kathy resumed teaching in 1989, after a 10-year child-care hiatus. She also decided to teach in the same school our children attended. Eventually, Kathy would teach them, at different times, in her eighth grade class. Therefore, during that period, I was more attentive to, and knowledgeable about, the activities they, and other students, performed in school, than I would normally be. One of the things Kathy did to promote thinking, reflection, and creativity in her students was to have them write journals. She would have them write on a regular basis to a variety of wide-ranging prompts, personal, religious, academic, or reflective. She would sometimes bring them home and share them with me. Although we were forbidden to read the journals of our own children, the writings of their classmates were always illuminating and insightful. I was amazed at how readily 13-year-old children were willing to express their feelings, desires, and emotions on paper. The fact that their teacher read their journals, and that some topics required her intervention, did not inhibit them from being honest and candid about any subject or prompt. Sometimes this journaling process allowed students to reveal and confess self-destructive, shameful, or wounding experiences of the past and present. They were calls for help, which Kathy was obligated to report, and help rescue. However, despite my appreciation of the writing process and the therapeutic and creative benefits journals could offer, I was still not interested in beginning the practice until 1996.

It was during that particularly stressful and combative year at work, that I read two books that changed my perspective about my profession, journaling, and me, Management of the Absurd, by Richard Farson, and The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron. Management of the Absurd helped me to accept that my job as a principal was impossible. It was impossible to perform to all the demands and expectations heaped upon me by society, laws, politics, parents, superintendents, teachers, and myself. Trying to meet the expectations of all of these people was crazy, and trying to master, the 161 hours a week demands of the job was absurd. Although Management of the Absurd pointed out the paradoxes in leadership, and the illusions of mastery and control, The Artist’s Way provided a method for personal growth and creative expression within this absurd world called education. I learned to journal while reading The Artist’s Way, and I continue the practice to this day.

The Artist’s Way is a manual that espouses the belief that all human beings are creative, and they have a physical and spiritual need to express it. When this imperative is blocked, depression and unhappiness descend upon us like a black cloud of despair. The main tool in combating this artistic block, and stimulating creative recovery, is the Morning Pages. Morning Pages is the simple practice of filling three pages of writing, each morning, on a daily basis. “There is no right or wrong way to do morning pages. These daily meanderings are not meant to be art. Or even writing. Pages are simply the act of moving the hand across the page and writing down whatever comes to mind”. This is a stream of consciousness practice, which necessitates writing. Morning Pages was my introduction to journaling. All that I had seen and learned from Kathy came-together and made sense with this practice.

I have been faithful to the practice I began in 1996, although I have deviated, sometimes. On occasion, I have halted for periods, or changed the setting to Afternoon Pages, Evening Pages, and even, Traveling Pages, but I have never stopped. Journaling has become as normal to me as breathing, and as necessary. Cameron described Morning Pages as a meditative process, and I have found it to be true in my journaling. For me, journaling, like meditation (or jogging, for that matter), is a focusing practice which allows me to differentiate between thoughts of actions and emotions, without clinging to the feelings or attitudes they engender. It also makes me aware of how my impressions and feelings are rooted in the past or the future, but rarely in the present, in the now. It helps me connect with myself, and my spiritual dimension. At this point in my life, I find that I journal because I must, and do so when I can.

I always assumed that my children also kept some type of journals. They had learned the skill from Kathy and other teachers in grade school, they practiced in high school, and they had seen us modeling it at home, through the years they were in college. I was surprised to learn that they did not keep traditional journals, but Tony did maintain a blog. Kathy, of course, was the first to discover this fact and then questioned them about blogging. They were both knowledgeable and very matter of fact about this new medium. While Teresa did not, Tony did maintain a public, internet journal, through a private internet server, on the World Wide Web. This was his means of reflecting on his life, actions, and intentions, and sharing it with friends, and the world. He had the means of “locking”, or restricting, access to his more private or confidential entries, but for the most part, all of his writings were for public viewing. I, of course, did not get it. I had spent years just getting to the point where I felt comfortable writing about me to myself, and now my son was sharing his life with the world. I could not understand it, but I accepted it as another manifestation of our generational and digital divide. At the same time, this new type of journal, the blog, intrigued me.

Tony was a consistent blogger. He had been posting his writings since college. Once he gave Kathy and me permission to read them, I was fascinated. They gave me a new and different insight into my son. I could read what he was doing, thinking, feeling, and worrying about. Tony was also, remarkably honest. We could track his moods through his postings. For a boy who never responded to my emails when he was a freshman and sophomore in college, Tony was now willing to let everyone in on his writings. As time went on, I became more and more curious about this new type of journal. I compared how and what I wrote in my Pages, with what I read in Tony’s blog. They were different. I wrote my journal to me, and for me, and for no one else. Tony wrote his blog to others, about himself, his thoughts, and ideas. After reading Tony’s blog for about three years, I decided to try blogging for myself.

While taking a writing workshop in 2003, I found that my journal served as a great incubator for ideas and themes that I developed into stories. These stories were meant for others to read. It seemed a natural progression, and I did not think much of it, at the time. However, once the workshop ended, my story writing stopped. The only writing I was doing was in my journal. Nothing else was forthcoming, but a nagging desire to write to a broader audience than myself. So, on one particularly boring day in 2006, I logged onto LiveJournal, and opened an account. I had entered the blogosphere, and I have not left.

What have I learned in my journey from diaries to blogs? Human beings are creative, and they have an intrinsic need to express themselves and communicate to others. Blogs satisfy both of these imperatives. They can be written as private diaries and journals, or for a public, or controlled, audience. Blogs can be stories, essays, reflections, photos, videos, audios, paintings, or drawings. They also offer the unique opportunity for response, or commentary, from their readers or viewers. This is dialogue, something diaries and journals rarely offer. Blogs strike me as online derivatives to the journals students wrote in school. Young people were eager and able to write, draw, or paste on (almost) any subject, with the knowledge that it would be shared with an outside reader or viewer. The fact that the reader was a teacher did not inhibit their expression. Blogs give people the freedom to express, communicate, and share without constraint. It is an ever-evolving form of creative and artistic expression and communication.

 
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When I first heard the term “Medevac”, I thought of the movie and television show, MASH. I remembered scenes of vintage military helicopters landing at a MASH Unit to deliver or evacuate wounded soldiers. A helicopter would swoop into a tented, medical encampment, hover, raising swirls of dust and debris, and land. With blades gyrating and engine drumming, the copter would perch, straining on the ground, while the wounded were removed, or replaced. Medics would rush the casualties aboard, ducking under the flashing scythes overhead. There was incredible urgency in the scene: tensions were higher, sights and sounds were crisper, and everyone moved quickly. In the eternal passing of minutes, all ground personnel would finally clear the landing spot, and flee the thundering machine. The engine would roar even louder, the blades whirl even faster, and the helicopter would slowly rise, hover again, and then fly off.

I always equated Medical Evacuations (Medevac) with combat zones, or wilderness areas. A medevac was an extraordinary extraction, or a swift means of transportation, necessitated by the exegesis of war or rugged terrain. Medevacs occurred in Korea and Viet Nam, or on Mount Everest. They did not occur in a middle school in Los Angeles.

We have had four medevacs at our middle school this school year. All occurred during the school day, requiring a lockdown protocol so that the children would be contained in a controlled and supervised location, during the emergency. There have been so many of these events at my school, that they are becoming commonplace. The fact that a school is so routinely used as a medevac landing site fills me with dread.

We are alerted to a medevac situation when three or four siren-sounding fire trucks assault the eastern gates of the school, parallel to our grass play field. If school personnel do not quickly open these gates, the firefighters are trained to cut the locks and enter. One truck remains to guard the gate entrance, and two invade the school, quickly proceeding down the fire lane that borders the south side of the field. They drive onto the blacktop of the basketball courts, and establish themselves along the western front of the field. Four firefighters, in full firefighting regalia, jump out of their trucks and swiftly deploy across the field, stationing themselves at the four corners. These quick and methodical maneuvers have a “shock and awe” effect on children and staff members. The firefighters are “securing” the landing area, making sure that the evacuation site is clear and safe for the next wave. They give curt commands and no explanations. They are awaiting the arrival of the casualty-carrying ambulance, and the helicopter.

All of these actions take only about 5-8 minutes. During that time, the school principal announces a “lockdown” on the public address system and instructs all teachers and students to stay in their classrooms until the emergency is over and the invading fire trucks leave the school. Other administrators and security staff are deployed to cooperate with the firefighters by insuring that the field and basketball area are kept clear of students and non-authorized spectators. By then, the fire chief and paramedics have arrived in separate vehicles, and a command post has been established on the blacktop. All eyes gaze out at the western horizon, awaiting the arrival of the Fire Department helicopter.

When we finally hear the unmistakable drone of its powerful twin engines, the helicopter is already upon us. Dispatched from its Air Operations base at the Van Nuys Airport, the 412 Bell helicopter swoops in from the western sky. The red and white colored vehicle drops altitude across the school campus, turning over the basketball courts, and hovering over the field. A guiding firefighter stands atop the closest truck, extending his arm into the sky, with a long banner of yellow caution tape in his hand. As the helicopter positions itself for the final descent, a blast from it double blades kick up a final whirlwind of dust and debris, forcing all spectators to turn away as the landing sleds finally touch ground. The cargo doors open and three helmeted crewmembers leap out. One stays by the door, and the other two go running across the field to the paramedic ambulance. Soon one crewman returns, escorting a young woman, probably the mother, to the helicopter. They enter, and the woman is secured inside. Then a gurney is pushed across the field, bearing the wounded infant. The paramedics retreat with the empty gurney, and the jump suited crewmen climb back into their copter and close the doors behind them. In a few minutes, made longer by anticipation, the thunderous whine of the engines increases to deafening proportions, and the helicopter slowly rises into the air. The air ambulance makes a 90 degree turn and ascends, northward over the field. It banks towards west and soon disappears into the horizon from which it appeared.

On the ground, firefighters are returning to their vehicles, and securing away their gear. The paramedic ambulance is the first to leave, and the trucks soon follow. During this demobilization, the principal returns to the Main Office to announce the end of the Lockdown, and explain the reason for the drill to students and staff. The children are told that no student or staff member was injured or transported, and we ask them to send thoughts of hope and concern to the injured party and their family. We stress the important part our school plays in assisting the Fire Department and City of Los Angeles. We say this to justify this invasion of emergency forces onto our campus. Nevertheless, the experience is just a reminder that our students live in an area that is tremendously inadequate in medical services and health care. We are treated as if we lived a war zone, and the school was the MASH unit.

The grass field at my middle school is officially designated as the medevac site for the northeast section of the San Fernando Valley by the City of Los Angeles. This is necessary because this part of the San Fernando Valley does not have the medical facilities to provide proper emergency care for trauma victims. The injured are stabilized, but then must be transported to other facilities in the western part of the valley, or downtown. This social reality is euphemistically referred to as “a medically underserved community”. It is a neutral sounding explanation for an ugly fact. This area cannot meet the emergency medical needs of its citizens and children, so the school must be used to help fill the healthcare gap.
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The word retirement raises mixed feelings in me. The word both excites me, and repulses me. On the one hand, it generates visions of comfort, ease, relaxation, and freedom from the stress and constraints of work. I would not have to face the people, problems, and anxieties that bombard me every day as a middle school principal. I would be able to concentrate on the activities I enjoy: reading, writing, photographing, exercising, learning, meditating, and seeing new things and people. On the other hand, retirement also raises images of laziness, slovenliness, and activities without point or purpose. I see myself on a never-ending vacation: getting out of bed at 10:00 A.M., reading the newspaper until noon, distracting myself for hours on the computer, dining, drinking, and falling asleep in front of the television. I fear becoming dull, bored, and unkempt, without the need to produce, achieve, or impress.

Retirement was never a major problem or a concern three years ago. I never gave it too much thought. However, it seems like the moment I turned 58 years of age, I became obsessed with it. Suddenly, it is all my friends and I talk about when we get together. Retirement has become a countdown, and a major headache. What do I do during retirement? Will my retirement salary be sufficient? How do I manage retirement while my wife continues to pursue her career? The concept has generated more questions, worries and anxieties than I ever thought possible. I’m really stuck. I’m anxious to retire, because I want to escape the work that I’m doing; but, I’m afraid of retirement, because I don’t know what I will do when I’m free. That is the basic problem. It is compounded with the additional uncertainties of life and finances in a retired state.

There is plenty of advice on the subject, most of it financial. There is a veritable tidal wave of information in bookstores, on the internet, and from friends and relations. All their advice has one thing in common; they tell you to plan, plan, and plan. Visualize the retirement you wish to have, then pursue that goal in a strategic manner. Visions, missions, planning, implementation, and assessment, it all sounds too much like the work I am trying to escape. So, what do I do? I need time to figure this out, but I don’t want to delay my retirement. I need to give myself time to decide what I should do during retirement. I need something different.

I grew up in a family of teachers, on my mother’s side of the family, in Mexico. My grandmother was a teacher, along with one aunt, two uncles, and my mother. These latter four teachers constituted the youngest members in a family of eight. They were the last to work, marry and leave home. I still remember their discussions at family dinners, when we visited. They would speak and argue about philosophy, politics, history, religion, and their careers as teachers. One topic that intrigued me was the “sabbatical”. At this point in their lives, my aunt and uncles were too young to think about retirement, but the sabbatical was an idea they loved to talk about. As they explained it, once a teacher, or professor, had completed a certain number of years providing adequate professional service, they qualified for a sabbatical leave. A sabbatical was a yearlong, educational opportunity, which allowed teachers to broaden their subject matter knowledge, or professional skills, by traveling, or taking classes in a college or university. It was an intellectual break from the practice of teaching, or administration, to pursue further studies or artistic realization. My uncles, aunt, and mother, spoke about it in dreamy terms. It was a chimerical reward for 7 to 10 years of service. Their school or university system would allow them a year leave with pay (usually half their salary) to study abroad, and improve themselves as cultured individuals and professionals. They spoke of traveling and attending universities in Italy, Spain, or the United States. They spoke of pursuing intellectual explorations into the arts and humanities, or subjects that would complement the countries and locales they would visit. I never forgot those wishful conversations about sabbaticals, but I never took them seriously. I was still a child, and they were young professionals who had committed to careers and lives in education. I just enjoyed hearing them spin their tales of travel and learning.

It was not until 1980’s that I chose to pursue a career in school administration in the Los Angeles Unified School District. Over the years, I had toyed with the idea of professions in the U.S. Foreign Service or higher education. However, with a wife, and two children at home, and over 5 years experience as a private and public school teacher, I knew it was time to concentrate my efforts in one professional direction. I chose secondary schools, and began a course of study that would culminate in another Master’s degree and credential in School Administration.

It was at this time that I also began noticing the occasional teacher and administrator, who was going to, or coming back from, a sabbatical. They were invariably happy people who described the places and events they had experienced, or were planning, in glowing, exciting terms. It was an energizing break, which renewed them, and made them better at their jobs, or happier doing them. I concluded that the sabbatical was yet another good reason to choose teaching and administration as a career in public education.

Unfortunately, by 1992, sabbaticals had ceased to be a practical incentive for professional growth. Cash strapped school districts and university systems had pretty much eliminated them from their budgets. Teachers and administrators did not dream of them, did not talk of them, and did not take them. The sabbatical as an educational concept ceased to exist in Los Angeles and California. The only break from teaching or administration could be a self-imposed cessation, resignation, or retirement. The concept of professional sabbaticals disappeared.

I am now 59 years old. I am less than two years away from retirement, and I have mixed feelings about it. I find myself, more and more, using thoughts of retirement as an escapist strategy. Whenever I’m unhappy, frustrated, or annoyed at work, I go right into wishful-retirement mode. This is pique, not planning. It does point out the obvious fact that schoolwork is not a source of fulfillment for me right now. School administration can be satisfying, sometimes, but not fulfilling. What I really need is a break to find what it is I want to do with retirement, so the idea of a “retirement-sabbatical” really makes sense to me. I need to take a year off to get my head together over what I want to do; a personalized sabbatical might do the trick.

The first step of my “retirement-sabbatical” plan is to choose the optimal time to resign and officially retire. The second part of the plan is to prepare for a half-year sabbatical to Morelia, in Michoacan, Mexico. Morelia is a beautiful, colonial city in the middle of Mexico, which is still largely untouched by industrialization, overpopulation, and tourism. It has a rich colonial history and houses one of the oldest universities in Mexico. In such a strange, new, and challenging environment, I’m sure to come up with SOMETHING I want to do for the rest of my life! This move does away with my fear of degenerating into a lazy, slovenly, and dull existence. Living and attending a university in Mexico would give me structure, purpose, and stimulation. This situation would also create a large amount of discomfort, and stress, by placing me in a different culture and environment – certainly for the first 4 weeks. It should cause me to reflect, analyze, learn, and adopt. I’d relearn Spanish and write constantly, because I’d have to, to survive. I’d reach out to make new friends and reconnect with family because I’d have to, to survive. I’d relearn how much I need and love Kathy and the kids because I’d be so terribly homesick and lonely.

I have two years from today to plan, organize, and implement my Retirement-Sabbatical strategy. My goal is to enroll for the second semester in the Universidad de Michoacan in Morelia, in January of 2009. I’ve taken my first step toward this goal, and I’m now visualizing this “retirement-sabbatical”. I found photos of Morelia, showing the colonial town and cathedral. I also found a great image of a palm tree with the word “Sabbatical” emblazoned across it. That’s my vision and my goal. I think my rationale is sound. Now, I just have to address it like one of my training campaigns. I need to take it slow and easy, but steady and consistently. I need to keep my eye on the prize – and now I have a concrete image of that prize.

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I cried the first time I heard John Lennon sing his lullaby, “Beautiful Boy (Darling Sean)”. I was driving home from Chatsworth, on Topanga Canyon Boulevard, on Father’s Day, in 1988. Tonito was 10 years old, at the time, and very much a child. I could feel my throat tighten, my face flush, and tears starting to moisten the sides of my eyes. Mists of bittersweet memories crept over my mind and thoughts. The song awakened tender images of moments spent with Tonito. I recalled teaching him to say his night prayers, as we knelt at the side of my bed. Showing him how to cross the street unattended, but taking his hand when he stepped onto the road. Reading him the Bene Gesserit “Litany Against Fear” from the science fiction novel, Dune, as a means of calming his worries and anxieties. It seemed that Lennon was describing my life and actions as Tonito’s daddy during those youthful, formative years. It struck me that my son was growing up too fast, and I feared there might come a time when he would not need me, anymore.


Tonito turned 29 this month. We took him to brunch on Sunday to celebrate his birthday. In the midst of the updating chitchat, he announced that he was going to find a new job with decent hours and fellowship, and going to propose to Jonaya. It took a few moments to register, but Prisa, Kathy, and I were completely stunned. Prisa recovered first by laughing at the irony of Tony taking the engagement burden off her and Joe. Kathy was next by asking clarifying questions to insure that she understood what Tony had said. I sat and listened, waiting and buying time to take stock of my feelings about this news, and comprehend it better.

So, there it is. Tonito is 29 and he intends to propose marriage sometime in April or May. A period of engagement will follow leading to marriage. He and Jonaya have already discussed it, so there will be no surprise when Tony pops the question. Kathy, of course, asked the essential questions: living arrangements, jobs, children, religion, etc. I just took it all in. I knew that Tonito and Jonaya were in love, but I had not thought the relationship was evolving to the point of commitments and marriage. With this announcement, Tonito had crossed the line between adulthood and maturity. He is now willing to become responsible for someone besides himself. He moves from a life of self-indulgence and distraction, to a life of sharing, planning, and compromise.


I still can’t describe my feelings about this. I know that I love Tonito and I want him to be happy. I know I will accept his decisions, and support them because of my love for him. I will always be on his side as he pursues happiness and fulfillment – even when he makes mistakes. He has introduced Jonaya into our expanded family, and everyone has accepted her. Now comes the love part. Now I will need to open myself to loving Jonaya as my son’s future wife, and mother to their children, my grandchildren.

It seems only a short time ago that I was looking at this long, bushy, black-haired infant through the glass partition of the maternity section of Saint Joseph’s Hospital. Twenty-nine years, those are many years to leap across in one brief second of memory. My beautiful boy is growing up and taking another step out on his own. Who knew! Is he ready for this? Who knows for sure? Were Kathy and I ready for marriage when she accepted my proposal? At least I’ve learned that marriage is a process, not a product. Tony and Jonaya will have to grow into their marriage and their lives together. I’m happy and scared for him. To propose marriage is a momentous step in his life. Why should I worry? He’s no longer a boy, he’s an adult. Nevertheless, I suppose, he’ll always be my beautiful boy, and I’ll always hope he still needs my advice or teaching. Were he to ask, I would tell him to be “patient, ‘cause it’s a long way to go, and a hard row to hoe”. I would especially want to tell him to always be aware of the wondrous moments and people who surround us, because life should not be “what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”.

Beautiful Boy (Darling Sean)
By John Lennon


Close your eyes
Have no fear
The monster's gone
He's on the run and your daddy's here

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy

Before you go to sleep
Say a little prayer
Every day in every way
It's getting better and better

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy

Out on the ocean sailing away
I can hardly wait
To see you come of age
But I guess we'll both just have to be patient
'Cause it's a long way to go
A hard row to hoe
Yes it's a long way to go
But in the meantime

Before you cross the street
Take my hand
Life is what happens to you
While you're busy making other plans

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy

Before you go to sleep
Say a little prayer
Every day in every way
It's getting better and better

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful
Beautiful boy
Darling, darling, darling
Darling Sean


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I know exactly how many times the surfaces of my school have been “hit up” with graffiti. I can check my digital photo record and document 12 mornings when I’ve arrived on Monday to discover graffiti covering school, auditorium, and classroom walls. There have been 12 other graffiti incidents at the school since July 1, 2006. Those occurred on other weekdays: four times on Tuesdays, twice on Wednesdays, three times on Thursdays, and four on Fridays. The sight of a vandalized school is so sad and depressing, that I can honestly say, a Monday without graffiti is the only good way to start a week.

A school is a home; it is the place where children and adults come together to laugh, learn, eat, and play. It should be an idyllic place of health, safety, and care. I feel a personal violation when I see my “school-home” desecrated and despoiled. The sight of garish lettering and words is offensive and ugly. It is demoralizing and upsetting to all members of the school community: administrators, teachers, students, and parents. The first impulse I feel is anger, and, then, the desire to lash out at these vandals. I visualize savage fantasies in which I strangle, shoot, or throw “taggers” off their high perches and roofs. The second feeling is frustration. The culprits are long gone, and there seems little that we can do to catch them, or to stop further graffiti.

Graffiti is a broad, generic term. It is the plural form of the Italian word graffito, which means, “scratch”. The earliest examples of these Italian “etchings” were found 2000 years ago on walls of the ruined city of Pompeii. The word itself doesn’t adequately describe the variety and styles of lettering, designs, messages, words, initials, and names that decorate and disfigure walls, doors, windows, brick, tile, and glass. It does however give a hint to the human compulsion to communicate on the property of others. I’ve seen graffiti all my life and I have seen it change and evolve, as I’ve gotten older.

My first contact with graffiti was as a sixth grader in elementary school. I remember seeing it on public bathroom walls, especially in toilet stalls. These early versions tended to be short, written messages, about a variety of topics – mostly sexual. Men would brag about their genital dimensions and sexual prowess, and invite comparison or comments. Another common expression was publicizing the services of a girl by writing her phone number, with a few encouraging words: “Call Becky for a good time”. The topics and writing styles broadened and improved when I found them in college restrooms, but they remained juvenile and egotistic. In fact, I associated graffiti with toilets, until I went to México City, in 1966.

While attending the National University of Mexico that summer, I experienced, first hand, political protests, and student strikes. I saw how students used graffiti as guerrilla writing to express their goals, issues, and demands. Their weapons were paint, brushes and spray cans, and their targets were walls, statues, and buildings. Students would use any surface available to publicize and communicate their cause. The word HUELGA , written on a university wall, was a command, an appeal, and a description of the emotions and demonstrations rocking the university over the course of the sixties. My romantic infatuation with this politico-activist graffiti lasted until the late 70’s, when I collided with the renaissance of urban gangs in Los Angeles.

In the late 70’s and 80’s, when I was teaching and advancing into school administration, graffiti and “gangbanging”, seemed to proliferate throughout Los Angeles. Old and new ethnic bands grew, expanded, and marked their territory by spray painting, penning, or tagging their gang’s name on walls, sidewalks, and buildings. 18th Street, Barrio Grande Vista, Westside Crips, Bloods, White Fence, Barrio Van Nuys, and Canoga Park Alabama were gang names that covered Los Angeles, from East Los Angeles to Compton, and to the San Fernando Valley. Accompanying the group name, a roster of member’s names, by their chosen “monikers”, would follow: Tiny, Flaco, Puppet, Maze, Dopey, Rascal, Oso. These individual placas or “tags” were the nom de guerre of the new type of warrior-thug, whose life style was becoming immortalized in “rap” and “gangsta rap” music. While the script of a few gangsters could be stylish and colorful, it simply became known as “Gang Writing”, synonymous with violence, crime, drugs, drive-bys, and retaliation. I would even find this graffiti on the binders and notebooks of my students, when I taught in public and Catholic schools. Even though they were not gang bangers themselves, these “wannabe” gangsters would “claim” a particular gang, practice their “tagging”, mimic their dress and speech, and listen to rap. The growing gang graffiti was a blight, but by the end of the millennia, the evolution of new groups, and new styles of tagging, would take graffiti to higher levels of destruction, as well as art.

When I was assigned to my first middle school as a principal, in 1991, traditional ethnic gangs had mutated into a virus-like, plethora of “tagging crews”. These juvenile “cliques” would organize themselves around teenage music and their youthful pursuits, and then they would “hang-out, party and tag” together. There were skateboard crews, rap and hip-hop crews, drug crews, and drawing crews. It did not take much time, members, or reason to create a crew, and the activity that defined them was tagging. Initiation rites centered on tagging, and rival crews went to war with other crews by tagging, crossing out, and tagging over other crews. What these crews lacked in the rituals, violence, and crime of traditional gangs, they made up in willful, or thoughtless, vandalism. This is the main source of the graffiti that despoils my school on a weekly basis. When I drive into the parking lot, I start craning my neck to catch sight of the more prominent and accessible walls, to see if they have been marked. This year, they usually are.

As I mentioned earlier, I experience a predictable sequence of feelings when I see my school covered in ugly, scrawling, graffiti: from anger to vengeance to helplessness. In this emotional fugue state, I ask myself, “Why would they do this? What does it mean? Who are they?” I sometimes create an imaginary police lineup in my head, and think of all the “usual suspects” I would round up and place there. These are the “misfit students”, the gang bangers and cholos, who are constantly in trouble with teachers and school authorities for defiance and disrespect. They are always thought to have sufficient motives to lash out against a school. However, before I’m tempted to act on this impulse, I revert to our Graffiti Protocol, which calms me, offers me hope, and gives me a specific course of action to follow.

Graffiti vandalism can be stopped, but it takes a lot of effort, and luck. The first thing we do is photograph the evidence. If I am first on the scene, or quickly available, I take pictures of all the names, initials, and drawings. We then have our own staff begin painting over, or wiping off, the offending markings as soon as possible. What we can’t remove, is referred to District painters and sandblasters, who finish the job. The next step is the most crucial; we distribute prints of the visual evidence to deans, teachers, and staff, and ask them to be our detectives. These adults become our army of motivated investigators, who are deeply offended at the damage done to their school, and want to stop it. They snoop, ask questions, and inspect student writing on papers, notebooks, and desks. They tease, cajole, and solicit information from the most knowledgeable or willing students. And sometimes, we get lucky; sometimes we catch the vandals.

In my experience, I’ve found that “likely suspects” rarely commit this type of graffiti vandalism. It is almost disappointing after the emotional buildup of anger, revenge, frustration, and the hunt to find these vile perpetrators. When tagging culprits are discovered, they usually turn out to be ordinary adolescents without disciplinary records or prior offenses. They generally tend to be kids who started, joined, or were curious about hanging with, a crew of some kind. The crew can consist of a small group of friends or school acquaintances who like to be together. Their parents are always surprised and unbelieving when we show them the pictures, and make the evidentiary connections. They believed that their child was simply spending time with friends to pursue common interests, like sports, music, biking, skating, or art. They are never prepared to discover that their child used “tagging” as a criminal means of expression, which would cost them embarrassment and hundreds of dollars in damages and fines.

I’ve painted a very negative picture of graffiti. But, as I discovered in Mexico, there are positive sides to it as well. Graffiti can be used as political and philosophical communication, and it is a valid art form. Graffiti always had an artistic aspect that went beyond the ordinary lettering of names and initials on walls. It takes an exceptional individual to identify and foster his artistic talent. The graffiti artist is the outsider, the visionary who sees gaudy images, designs, and words as a form of beauty and meaning. Walls become the canvass where these artists can express their edgy and unique style of art. It is garish and shocking, but the color, content, and composition, catches and holds our attention. This art stimulates our senses and makes us think and feel, but only for a moment. Graffiti art is transitory: it is imprinted onto a surface that will not allow permanence. I discovered one such work in 1988, when I was an assistant principal at a middle school in Van Nuys. Someone had spray painted a comic book-style image of a slouching, youthful skateboarder, in oversized pants and hooded sweatshirt, with a baseball cap cocked to the side, on the front wall of the school. It was impressive. I hated to order its removal. We never discovered who the artist was, and my only regret is that I never photographed the image. It is gone, a memory on an impermanent surface. A few of these pirate artists manage to mature and crossover into the world of mainstream art. Jean-Michel Basquiat, the New York street artist comes first to my mind. I saw his exhibit at the Los Angeles Museum of Contemporary Art in 2005. It was incredible to see his evolution from minimalist graffiti “tagger” to blossoming painter.

There is a world of difference between the juvenile taggers that we sometimes arrest for vandalism and the artistic painter. It has to do with choices. The graffiti that greets me on a Monday morning is not a product of practice, planning, or hard work. It does not tell a story of style, design, or composition; it simply shows the thoughtless actions of adolescents. When we question the few vandals that we catch, they always respond, “I dunno”, when asked, “Why did you do it?” That is what is so infuriating about this type of “tagging”; it is the product of mindless, thoughtless, juvenile decision-making. I inhabit this world of middle school thinkers. My only solace is the knowledge that destructive graffiti tends to be random, and it comes in waves, with peaks and valleys. We are going through a very serious peak, and it is demoralizing. Only the constructive actions I outlined above will help us get through this period. Thank goodness, adolescents grow up.
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New Year Resolutions have become very predictable for me. There are only a few things that I really need to do to insure good health and spirit, I just don’t do them; ergo the need for new resolve every year. Another story about these same resolutions was pointless. All I had to do was refer to the story I filed on Jan. 5, 2006 (2006 Resolutions) to see what I promised to accomplish last year. Very good resolutions, but obviously, not accomplished.

So, it occurred to me to write about something I absolutely needed to achieve in 2007, instead of things that “I should do”. The only thing that I really needed to do was replace the photo picture frame I had taken down from my office with a new one. Now this may seem a very simple operation, but trust me, it is not.

I began the practice of hanging large picture frames containing multiple family photos on my office wall, in 1991. I was appointed to my first assignment as Principal. Over time, I became increasingly isolated and lonely in this new position. I quickly realized a need to surround myself with photographs of my loved ones. In moments of stress and uncertainty, I needed to be able to look up and see the smiling faces of my children, wife, and family. Kathy created that first photo frame album in 1991, and 2 more in the years that followed. I would suggest one as a possible Christmas or birthday gift, and she would make it. Updating and changing these picture frames became equally important because the kids were growing and changing so fast. These were the years that saw Tony and Prisa move from the eighth grade, to high school, to college, and, finally, to full-time employment, away from home.

The creation of a picture frame album may seem simple at first thought. The primary task is indeed simple, choosing photographs of family members that I love, and mounting them in a wall picture album. Easy, all one has to do is select pictures that they like. Wrong. Much thought, sensitivity, and judgment must go into this process before the final product is complete.

I took over the task of updating my office picture frames in 2003. Since then, I have made 2 picture frames for myself, and about 20 more for other family and friends. I’ve also come to the conclusion that there are many lurking landmines in the creation of these albums, and one must approach the task with care and trepidation. This caution has developed over a three year period of trial and error, with the realization that other people will be looking at these pictures, and judging them, from their own particular perspective.

So my first goal of 2007 was to choose 12 family photos that I wanted to place in a picture frame on my office wall. However, in order to accomplish this New Year’s resolution, five factors had to be considered before mounting the final photographs: Equity; Aesthetics; Emotional content; Recency; and finally, Balance.

1) Equity: People count photographs, and they notice the number of times they appear in them. Most viewers are subtle about this point, but some are not. Prisa always counts the number of times she appears, and announces it to other family members (especially her older brother). As the baby in the family, and only girl, she believes that there should always be more images of her. So, it is important to try and balance the appearance of people in the photo album, especially for immediate family members. How many times should family members appear; who are they; with whom do they appear; and what is their status and position in the family? Very complex calculations must be made in selecting the right number of photographs to insure equity. An equal number of appearances is a good beginning, but adjustments should always be considered.

2) Aesthetics: People look at their images in photographs and judge how they look. Do they look pretty, old, fat, or funny? Always assume that the person portrayed in the photo will ask you: Why did you pick that one? Therefore, only photos that flatter the people pictured should be considered. If not everyone looks good in a photo, don’t choose that picture. My wife is a particularly good judge of photo aesthetics. She will let me know immediately which photos flatter or misrepresent her, our children, and other family members. The editing of digital photos has been a big help to me in this area. With the ability to crop, alter, and enhance photos, it is easier to insure that everyone “looks fabulous” in a particular picture.

3) Emotional content: Photos are pictorial memories of events; joyous, sentimental, and painful. Every picture tells a story and communicates a feeling. Photos of weddings, graduations, parties, and celebrations, can fill the viewer with powerful emotions. The photo of Prisa’s Eighth Grade May Crowning always brings me to tears when I see the budding image of a young woman in that sweet and innocent, child-like face. A photo of Prisa, Kathy, and I, on a boat tour, is a happy memory of our trip to Chicago, but it can also remind the viewer that it occurred a month after a traumatic death in the family. At the same time, group photos taken at the funeral reception of Kathy’s Aunt Mary, are universally accepted as representations of a joyous occasion that united all the family at one moment in time. Therefore, since photos can, directly and indirectly, trigger happy or painful memories, it is important to consider the effect any picture may have on a possible viewer.

4) Recency: Photographs are temporal representations, so, a decision must be made as to the period of time a picture frame will show. How current should the photos be? I am a strong advocate that new office photo frames should be as up-to-date as possible, unless there is a particular purpose in showing old photographs when people were infants and children. As I have replaced my office frames with more current ones, I’ve inadvertently created a magical time line of four picture frames at home. The first picture frame that Kathy made for me in 1991, up to the first one I made for myself in 2003, hangs in the main hallway of our home. Photos of our dating and wedding days, infant and grade school children, and high school and college graduates are highlighted on these frames. They are a panoramic sweep of my life with Kathy from 1974 to 2003. They are wonderful memories, appropriate in a loving, welcoming home, but not, necessarily, in a workplace. When I am at school, I do not wish to be surrounded by shadows of the past; I need the comfort of the present. Nostalgic photos of a wondrous bride, magical infants, and the early, idyllic, years of marriage and parenthood, can too easily fuel self-pitying plunges into depression, when compared to the stark realities of the present. Where are the people portrayed in the old photographs? They exist in my memory, but not in the present. I need the representations of my loved ones to be as current in time as possible.

5) Balance: All of the factors I mentioned above must finally come together to form a balanced, integrated, whole. To accomplish this final phase, you must start placing the photos you have tentatively selected into their possible locations on a mock picture frame. It is helpful to have extra photos available, so that you can change, delete, and modify the field of images. Shape, color, symmetry, and family politics, must blend into a peaceful balance: How many single, double, of group images should I use? Will a photo of Kathy’s parents require another one of my mother? Where do I place the children? At this stage, I always ask the advice of Kathy, who has done many on her own. She provides input on equity, aesthetics, emotions, and recency. We move pictures around, trying them here and there, or eliminating them altogether. The person making the picture frame always gets final cut.


On January 2, 2007, the first day of school, I carried the completed twelve-photo picture frame to work. I hung it on my office wall and stepped back to admire it. There were an equal number of family images spread throughout the field, with Prisa topping the count at 9. Everyone in the photographs looked authentic, alert, and fabulous. All the representations were of happy times, with the subtle inclusion of a duet photo of Prisa and Tony at their grandmother’s burial reception. The dates of the photos ranged from May 11, 2002 (Prisa’s college graduation), to December 25, 2006 (the family Christmas party), with the majority falling in the last two years. In a break with tradition, I had introduced many photos of grandparents. There was a photo of Kathy and me with her parents, Kathy and her five younger sisters, with their mother, a photo of Prisa and her friend Katie, with her grandmother, and a photo of Prisa and me, with my mother.

As a whole, I was pleased with the balance and mood of the picture frame. I realized that there was a subconscious tendency to show a tipping point of time in the images I had chosen. In the period depicted, Kathy had suffered the loss of her sister and mother; and the children, their aunt and grandmother. I evidently wanted this photo album to show and remember our parents, the children’s grandparents, as they were, and are, up to this year. I wasn’t sure it would work, until I showed the field of photographs to Kathy. I think I saw a whisper of an understanding smile cross her lips as she said, “That’s good, Tony”.

So, this New Year starts with the culmination of a successful project; my first resolution of the year is complete. Let us pray that 2007 provides us with many days of happiness, and the patience and peace to deal with the adversity that helps us appreciate it.
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I loved my grandparent’s Nacimiento. Every year, at Christmas time, my abuelitos would build a fabulous Nativity scene in their living room. It was a toy-sized, Disneyland-like world, made up of magical kingdoms, and exotic locales. These lands contained cottages, villages, and farms, located along rivers, lakes, deserts, and forests. Equestrians, oxcarts, and wagons vied with bedouins and kings on camels, along meandering roads. Snow and rain, disguised as silver tinsel foil, hovered and glistened over the painted heavens, and light came from multiple sources in the artificial sky. This make-believe world took up a third of the living room, and filled the large picture window, overlooking the front yard and sidewalk.

The Delgado Nacimiento on Workman Street was an elaborate diorama of the Nativity scene with Joseph and Mary, then, the baby Jesus, and, finally, the three Magi. But my fascination was not with the main figures, who were central to the Christmas story. I fell in love with the imaginary, toy-sized world that surrounded the Christmas event, and the many characters and stories that provided the backbeat to the holy trio depicted in the diorama.

To say that my abuelitos made this magical creation is an exaggeration. They certainly sponsored the annual tradition, and always felt free to express their pleasure or dismay to the people working. They pretty much sub-contracted the actual construction work to their children, my aunts and uncles. Of my 10 living aunts and uncles, the seven elders handled the design, material purchases, and carpentry. The three youngest, Charlie, Liza, and Espie, did the low-level, manual labor, and were responsible for the supporting scenes, characters, and stories. They were also allowed to recruit and direct as many nieces and nephews as they wished, or could handle. I joined them at age 5, the minute my parents said I could. My younger brother and two sisters, while not official recruits, were always around watching and joining whenever they could. On the three Saturdays we visited our grandparent’s home, I remember the construction of the Nacimiento as having three phases.


Charlie, Liza, and Espie were strong advocates of sensory stimulation. They insisted that all young Nacimiento builders have “the Christmas spirit” in order to work properly. This spirit, they believed, could only be achieved by singing lots of Christmas songs. So they dedicated this first phase of Nacimiento construction to teaching us Christmas carols “we needed to know”. Since my siblings and I were still learning English at the time, this was unknown territory, but our aunts and uncle were eager and excellent instructors. “Santa Claus Is Coming to Town” was the first carol we learned. It was the biggest hit, because, for three kids just learning about American Christmas, it simplified all the essentials aspects: Santa sees everything we do, and good children get good gifts. What was especially remarkable about this song was the preface they taught us to sing, which is usually left out by commercial singers. The preface gave a context to the song which fascinated me. The mysterious writer of this song was a cosmic explorer, a friend of Santa who vacationed in the North Pole, and a culture hero to boys and girls everywhere for revealing Santa’s plan. He also described a “toy land town” populated with tiny figures, animals, cars, and boats; a world that would soon be recreated in our Nacimiento:

I just got back from a lovely trip
Along the Milky Way
I stopped off at the North Pole
To spend a holiday
I called on dear old Santa Claus
To see what I could see
He took me to his workshop
And told his plans to me

So, you better watch out
You better not cry
You better not pout, I'm telling you why
Santa Claus is coming to town

He's making a list
And checking it twice
Gonna find out who's naughty or nice
Santa Claus is coming to town

He sees you when you sleeping
He knows when you're awake
He knows if you've been bad or good
So be good for goodness sake

Oh, you better watch out
You better not cry
You better not pout, I'm telling you why
Santa Claus is coming to town

Little tin horns
Little toy drums
Rudy-toot-toot and rummy tum tums
Santa Claus is coming to town

Little toy dolls that cuddle and coo,
Elephants, boats, and Kiddie cars too
Santa Claus is coming to town

The kids in Girl and Boy Land
Will have a jubilee
They're gonna build a Toyland
All around the Christmas tree

So, you better watch out
You better not cry
You better not pout, I'm telling you why
Santa Claus is coming
Santa Claus is coming to town

Next came the finding, carting, and unpacking of the Nacimiento materials that were stored in the huge, barn-sized garage in the backyard. Actually my brother, Arthur, and sisters, Stella and Gracie, and I, did not mind being the porters of this Christmas caravan of goods. Each container was a Pandora’s Box of mystery. Although all the boxes carried labels, there was never a guaranteed description of the contents. All the different ingredients that went into creating the Nacimiento could be anywhere in these boxes: wood fragments, moss, rocks, hardware, mirrors, sheets of cotton, cloth, cardboard, colored paper, wires, and, most important, the figurines. Arthur always liked to spoil our fun, by correctly guessing the contents, long before we opened the boxes. He had the uncanny ability to divine what was inside, by feel, smell, weight, and clues on the boxes.

My aunts and uncles had been collecting the supporting cast of Nacimiento figurines for years. These were the wood, ceramic, plaster, and, sometimes, rubber characters that provided the back stories to the Christmas tableaux being presented in the forefront of the Nacimiento. The Nativity focused on Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, and eventually, the three Wise Men. These characters were the largest figures, and they, along with the stable, dominated the diorama. They were packed away in special boxes by our abuelitos and placed somewhere in the main house. Only they knew the location of this secret place, and they would bring forth these main images only when the Nacimiento was ready to receive them. It was the lesser beings that were our responsibility.

We would watch, and help, as Charlie, Espie, and Liza, unpacked the boxes, categorized the cargo, and spread the contents on the floor of the living room and family room. Once everything was spread out before them, they would begin identifying roles, scenes, and stories. Some figurines would become angels in the skies, while others, shepherds in fields and hills. Drovers, horsemen, walkers, storekeepers, children playing, merchants, and soldiers; all manner of men, women, and children, were cast into a world of roles and occupations. Some were perennial, traditional roles, shaped long ago by the creator of the image; others changed from year to year. Here was the art that my young uncle and aunts taught us: to see the potential of each figure. Anyone could cast an image of a child with wings as an angel, but a kneeling child might fit the part better.

During this phase, the older aunts and uncles constructed the wooden stage and overhead frame of the Nacimiento. It was a serious undertaking, because the structure would have to support two to three adults working within the diorama. The heavens and earth would be built on that platform and frame, and an open, wooden shed, in Bethlehem would be the axis of that world.

The final job of Charlie, Espie, and Liza, was that of placing the characters they had chosen within the diorama with enhancing scenery, props, and, if necessary and possible, costumes. Many of these items were saved, and used, from year to year. Other times, they had to be invented: mirrors became lakes or frozen ponds, shells became elaborate seashores and jetties, and pine cones became rocks and trees. As the platform became more and more crowded with scenery and figures, smaller children were used to place or modify the objects and images in the diorama. The wood flooring would eventually disappear, and be covered by mountains, forests, hills, lakes, and fields, right up to the edge of the diorama. The smallest or youngest child in the family would place the last, missing piece of the diorama on the night before Christmas.

The Delgado family celebrated La Noche Buena (The Good Night) on the night before Christmas. We would all gather on Christmas Eve to feast on tamales, enchiladas, arroz, frijoles, and other Mexican cuisine, and celebrate the birth of Christ by sharing gifts and singing songs. At the appropriate time, determined by my abuelitos, one of the younger children was selected to place the missing figure in the Nacimiento, the baby Jesus. His placement on the crib would mark the end of the Nacimiento process, and the culmination of more than three weeks of work. We accompanied this ritual by singing “Silent Night”.

I remember hearing the words to that song as I gazed at this magical world, filled with toy-like images and figures that had until that moment, been frozen in expectation. Now they were free to live the momentary life of the Christmas season. I could no longer reach out and change their role, station, or position. I could only watch and wonder what I might have been doing on that cold night, 2000 years ago, when our Savior was born in Bethlehem.
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The winds buffet you constantly, and they seem to suck your breath away. You are out in the open, very alone, and exposed to all the elements. You look down at a sheer drop from a steep pinnacle with no obstruction on any side. The vista is like nothing you’ve ever experienced. It is like standing on the roof of the tallest skyscraper, without barriers or protection. You are at the tip of a city’s skyline, and can look down at the smaller buildings, churches, apartments, and homes that make up a major metropolitan city. Only you are not standing atop a modern skyscraper, you are on top of an ancient, monumental, pyramid, on the Avenue of the Dead, in the Valley of Teotihuacán.

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This is how I remember the first time I climbed to the top of the Pyramid of the Sun at Teotihuacán. I was seven or eight years old. My parents had picked that summer for a vacation to Mexico to visit family and introduce their 4 children to the wonders of their Mexican heritage and culture. There had been an orchestrated build up leading to our expedition to Teotihuacán. My uncles and aunts had recounted the stories of this legendary Indian city, which the Aztecs of Tenochtitlan (Mexico City) called “the birthplace of the gods”.

Teotihuacán [teotiwa'kan] is located in what is now the San Juan Teotihuacán municipality in the State of México, Mexico, approximately 25 miles northeast of Mexico City. The site covers a total surface area of 11 and a half square miles. It was called “place where the gods were born” by the Nahuatl-speaking Aztecs, hundreds of years after the city was destroyed and abandoned. Even then, only crumbling ruins and earth-covered mounds hinted of the greatness that existed in the dim past. But these monumental ruins inspired such awe in the Aztecs, that they incorporated the lost city, with their own pantheon of gods, into new creation myths. 

Little is known of the actual name, or the founders, of the city. We do know that it was an agrarian-based, urban civilization which flourished in the first half of the 1st millennium. At that time, it was the largest city in all the Americas, with economic, religious, and cultural influence over all of Mesoamerica (central Mexico to Honduras). The city reached its zenith between 1 and 200 A.D., with about 60,000 to 80,000 inhabitants, and its power was comparable to that of ancient Rome. However, in 6th or 7th century A.D., this elaborate, urban center collapsed, and eventually disappeared. Theories abound as to reasons for its destruction: internal strife, military invasions, climatic changes, and drought, but by 800 A.D., the city was already lost to mystery and legend.

On that first occasion, when I climbed the five-staged pyramid of the Sun, it was the myths that fascinated me. Here was a physical place of emotional power. Teotihuacán, with its plazas, avenues, and pyramids, pulsated with elemental energy. On top of these wind-swept pyramids, humans were sacrificed in bloody and elaborate rituals to reenact the birth of the sun and moon, and ensure their predictable movement through the cosmos. Here thousands of people gathered to sing, dance, and pray for the more personal matter of life: birth, death, love, hope, and suffering. Quetzalcoatl, the Feathered Serpent, was another god, and culture hero, who held sway in the theology of that time. His smaller pyramid was located at the Southwest corner of the Avenue of the Dead. He was the avatar of humanity, the god who sought to bring light, knowledge, song, and poetry to earth.

This mythical, religious ceremonial center fascinated me, because of its isolated beauty, its mystery, and its ability to attract so many people after its demise. Day after day, year after year, people from Mexico and around the world come to see and experience Teotihuacán. They walk and gawk along the Avenue of the Dead, the North-South axis of the city, spying the platforms, courtyards, and pyramids that border it. They scale, both, the Pyramid of the Moon, which anchors the northern point of the avenue, and the Pyramid of the Sun, in the middle. The Sun Pyramid, which is 215 by 215 m at the base, and about 63 m high, is clearly the dominant point of the city. Recent excavations have added even more to the religious mystery of the structure, by revealing an ancient cave located directly beneath it.

Teotihuacán inspires mystery and awe in the people who come to marvel, but it provides no answers. Visitors come with different beliefs, perspectives and expectations, and they all leave moved and impressed by the monumental design and architecture of this ancient ceremonial site. Teotihuacán is a place of tremendous energy, but Mexico has another source of greater power: Tepeyac.

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On December 12, Mexico celebrates its most significant religious feast day of the year. On that day, thousands and thousands of Mexicans, Catholics, and curious visitors and seekers, descend on a place called Tepeyac or the Hill of Tepeyac. It is located inside Gustavo A. Madero, the northernmost delegación or borough of Mexico City. It is the site where Saint Juan Diego is said to have met the Virgen de Guadalupe in1531, and where the Villa de Guadalupe is located today.

According to the first accounts of the event, during a walk from his village to the city on December 9, 1531, Juan Diego saw a vision of the Virgin Mary at the Hill of Tepeyac. Appearing as an Indian woman, and speaking in Nahuatl, she told him to build a church on the site. But when Juan Diego spoke to the Spanish bishop, Fray Juan de Zumárraga, the prelate did not believe him, asking for a miraculous sign. In another apparition, the Virgin told Juan Diego to gather flowers from the hill, even though it was winter, when normally nothing bloomed. He found Spanish roses, gathered them in his tilma, and presented these to the bishop. When the roses fell from his apron an icon of the Virgin remained imprinted on the cloth. It is this image, of a brown-skinned, Indian maiden, with hands clasped in prayer, wrapped in a long blue veil studded with gold stars, and standing on a half moon, that is housed in the Basilica, today.

The construction of the church dedicated to the Virgen began in 1531 and was finished in 1709. The tilma of Juan Diego was placed in this, original, church from 1709 to 1974.The church was granted basilica status by Pope Pius X in 1904. Over time, however, this old basilica began to sink, because the ground on which it was built, and the city, was constructed on a former lake. As a consequence, a new, more spacious, basilica was built between 1974 and 1976. It is a circular building, made in such a way as to allow maximum visibility for the image to those inside. The structure is supported by 350 pylons that prevent the basilica from sinking with the rest of the ground. The Basilica is considered the second most important sanctuary of Catholicism ( based on the number of pilgrims who visit) just after the Vatican City.

For many historians and priests, the ascendency of the Virgin Mary in Mexico, was viewed as the final conquest of the Spanish over the Indian population. However, to Mexicans, the apparition of the Indian Virgin, at that site, was the spiritual enactment of the mestizaje (blending, or mixture) of Christianity with Indian paganism. The hill of Tepeyac had once been a worship site for the indigenous mother goddess, Tonantzin.According to Aztec mythology, this was the location of a pyramid toTonantzin, the lunar goddess of the Earth. This was the goddess who brought the corn, “Mother of the Corn”. She was also refered to as"Woman of Precious Stone", "The Goddess of Sustenance", and "Honored Grandmother".

The vast plaza that introduces visitors to the Hill of Tepeyac and the Basilica of Guadalupe does not stagger the senses like Teotihuacán, or its pyramids. The spiritual and elemental power of this place is not in its monumental architecure or design, it is in the people who come to pray and worship.Where Teotihuacán has echoes of power, Tepeyac is alive with it. The ground it stands on throbs with vital energy.

I have been to the Villa de Guadalupe on every one of my visits to Mexico. It is a pilrimage site to millions of Catholics. The vision that always jolts me, upon my arrival to the plaza leading to the Basilica, is the masses of poor and humble people walking on their knees, stopping, praying, and resuming their migration toward the church. This slow moving, tidal wave of humanity leaves a bloody path on the coarse plaza ground. Instead of sharp obsidian knives ripping the pulsing hearts out of human chests, rough stones rub away the cloth and skin to expose bleeding knees, sinews, and bone. Poverty, suffering and penance is the antecedent to the icon of the Virgen, the mother of God. Yet, upon reaching their goal, and viewing the image of la vigen morena, there is an explosive sensation of hope, joy, and thanksgiving. This release is felt, physically, throughout the church and plaza. It is the source of the power to this ancient and modern place.

What I love best about this devotion to Mary on December 12, is the way it begins. At day break, men, women, and children gather together, in homes, at churches, and, at Tepeyac, to serenade their “little, brown mother”. They play and sing Las Mañanitas, a traditional Mexican song for birthdays, anniversaries, and serenades:

Estas son las mañanitas, que cantaba el Rey David. Hoy por ser día de tu santo, te las cantamos a ti.

David the King sang these little psalms. Since today is your Saint Day, we will sing them to you.

Despierta mi bien despierta, mira que ya amaneció. Ya los pajaritos cantan. La luna ya se metió

Awaken, my love, awaken, the sun is about to rise. As the moon leaves us this morning, the birds will begin to sing.

Que linda está la mañana en que vengo a saludarte. Venimos todos con gusto y placer a felicitarte.

How lovely is the morning, as I come to bring you greetings. We all come in celebration of this special day for you.

Ya viene amaneciendo. Ya la luz del día nos dio. Levántate de mañana. Mira que ya amaneció.

The day is now dawning, and the light of day has come. Awaken early this morning, to see all that we have done.


Las Mañanitas is not a prayer, nor an intersession. They are morning greetings of affection to a loved one. This is how Mexicans sing to their brown-skinned, Nahuatl-speaking, Indian mother: the Mother of Jesus who appeared on an ancient pyramid dedicated to the Indian goddess of life and sustenance, in Tepeyac.
 
 
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He would come bounding out of the garage on cat’s feet, rushing towards the approaching automobile as if to run under its wheels. This image always comes to my mind when I think of Persephone. The minute I hit the garage door opener and the door began to rise, out would bounce my graying, shaggy, black cat, whining for the food he knew I would give him once I stopped my car. The food was the reward he would receive for doing his tricks: leaving the house on command; rolling over on the driveway pavement; and begging by putting his front paws on the running board of the car when I opened the driver side door after parking. This pattern of
tricks for treats evolved over a long period, but my discovery of them was quite accidental. It never occurred to me that they were tricks, until Prisa marveled at them one day. Now I wonder who trained whom.

Persephone was always my cat and kitten. Kathy H. brought him to our home, over 15 years ago, as a pet for Prisa, but he soon became, “Dad’s Cat”. I named him (misnamed him, actually), fed him, and took him to the vet when he ailed. He was a static haired, bundle of black fur when he first arrived. Kathy claimed that she had personally selected HER for us because she was the friendliest and most affectionate kitten of Blackie’s litter. This kitten gravitated to people, and loved to be petted and held. I convinced Prisa that the name Persephone would be classic. Persephone was the Greek wife of Hades and queen of the Underworld. Prisa, reluctantly, agreed, but she always called him Kitty. Persephone was the accepted name by the time the vet informed me that he was a tom. Try as we did to rename him Percy, the original name stuck, despite the gender confusion, and need for explanation.

Persephone grew up to be an outdoor part of the family, standing sentinel by the doors and windows hoping to get inside. His outdoor status became necessary when we lost confidence in his toilet training. Whenever we allowed him in for short periods, we would find wet urine stains or dried poop. The garage became his room, but he never accepted his lot as an outdoor cat. He needed human proximity and company. He slept along side our bedroom window, watched me fix breakfast through the backyard, sliding glass door, and entered any entry left open for more than 2 minutes. His residence with us corresponded with the high school, college, and young adult years of Prisa and Tonito. As the house emptied for longer and longer periods, Persephone’s constant presence became more and more reassuring.

As I think of my time with Persephone, I recall three events most clearly: The time I took Persephone to the vet for neutering; the occasion that he caught his first prey as a hunter; and when he failed to return home from one of his infrequent absences.

Persephone was 2 or 3 years old when his visits to other homes in the neighborhood alerted us to the possibility that he was “catting around”. The most irritating aspect of this period was the catfights that occurred outside our bedroom windows, on weekends, in the early mornings. There was no doubt about what was going on. Persephone was one of 2 or 3 cats paying court to a large, voluptuous, orange and white tabby cat. I never thought he was having much success. Kathy was the first to mention the “S” word. I procrastinated as long as possible. I insisted that Persephone’s timid personality and repeated battered and bloodied appearance was evidence that he was not sexually dominant. However, the fact that the chubby tabby cat kept hanging around our house pointed to another conclusion. Persephone might not have been a very effective fighter, but he did attract one lucky lady.

I don’t recall many details surrounding his spaying. I delayed the operation for as long as possible. I insisted that it coincide with my monthly principal’s meeting, which would allow me to drop him off at the vet’s in the morning. The day of the procedure, he came right to me when I called. All was fine until I put him inside the Carrier Box and closed the lid. He then began growling, in a long, low, humming voice. I imagined that he was pleading with me. I kept telling him that everything would be fine, and that it would be over soon. I even promised him unlimited food and treats. When I picked him up after the operation, I kept apologizing in the car. Persephone was remarkably forgiving. He still came when I called, and he continued to seek my hand and caresses. He was always a loving, pettable cat.

If there was one area of puzzlement about Persephone, it was his indifference with hunting. He came from a bloodline that promised incredible prowess. Blackie, his mother, was a legendary hunter. KenH\ H. would regale us with tales of the gophers and rabbits Blackie would stalk, kill, and drag back to her litter. I expected to see some evidence of this hunting heritage, but, year after year, nothing happened. I finally despaired, and dropped the expectation. Then one day I noticed a limp.

When Persephone was 10 years old, he developed a pronounced limp in his rear, right leg. Prisa was in her senior year of college and visiting at the time. When she noticed the limp, she insisted that it was serious, and required medical attention. Two days and $300 later, the vet could not explain the reason for the limp, but she did prescribe lots of expensive medication. The vet also pointed out that Persephone was tremendously overweight, and admonished me for over feeding him. Motivated by the huge medical bill, I placed Persephone on a Spartan diet of one meal per day. Sure enough, both his rotund appearance and his limp disappeared in a few months. He was looking sleek and healthy, and moving very well. It was at this time that I finally discovered evidence of Blackie’s genetic traits.

I remember looking out the front window one day, to see Persephone playing with a toy on the lawn. Persephone was no longer a kitten, and this type of play was unusual. I walked outside, curious over what object could elicit the youthful behavior. I was shocked to see that it was a dead bird. I could not believe it. After all these years, Persephone had finally bagged a bird. I even telephoned Prisa at college to tell her of this milestone. Bewildered by the news, Prisa wanted proof that the bird was not already dead, from natural causes, before Persephone found it.

As children, Tonito and Prisa learned a catchy song on Sesame Street called The Cat Came Back. It was a silly ditty about a man’s frustrated attempts at getting rid of his cat. Each stanza sang of a new attempt at killing this cat, but the refrain was always the same:

“But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea”

Persephone would occasionally disappear for one or two days, but he always came back. These absences were infrequent, but not unusual. On those rare occasions, I would reassure Prisa (and sometimes, Kathy) with the words to the song, and tell her “the cat would be back, because he couldn’t stay away”. Only this time, Persephone did not come back. He did not reappear outside the sliding glass door in the morning. He did not respond to my call when I filled his dish with food and water. He did not rush out to greet me when I opened the garage door in the evening. On the third day of his absence, I suspected the worst. I recalled his recent loss of appetite, and his walking away from full plates of food. Persephone had become listless, and he was showing his age. When Prisa came home for Thanksgiving, I told her that I believed Persephone was gone and would not be back. I remembered that his mother, Blackie, also disappeared. Ken believes that during one of her hunting expeditions on the hill behind their house, she became the game to the coyotes that frequented the Hidden Hills area. It was the law of the jungle, the food chain at work. Somehow, I couldn’t accept that scenario. Persephone was not a hunter, and he was cautious. I think he knew it was time, and he left to die quietly in his sleep. Yet, I haven’t moved his food and water dish, and his canned food supply is still stacked in the garage. I keep thinking that he’ll come back.


The Cat Came Back

Written By: Harry S. Miller (with later folk additions)
Copyright Unknown

Old Mister Johnson had troubles of his own
He had a yellow cat which wouldn't leave its home;
He tried and he tried to give the cat away,
He gave it to a man goin' far, far away.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

The man around the corner swore he'd kill the cat on sight,
He loaded up his shotgun with nails and dynamite;
He waited and he waited for the cat to come around,
Ninety seven pieces of the man is all they found.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

He gave it to a little boy with a dollar note,
Told him for to take it up the river in a boat;
They tied a rope around its neck, it must have weighed a pound
Now they drag the river for a little boy that's drowned.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

He gave it to a man going up in a balloon,
He told him for to take it to the man in the moon;
The balloon came down about ninety miles away,
Where he is now, well I dare not say.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea
He gave it to a man going way out West,
Told him for to take it to the one he loved the best;
First the train hit the curve, then it jumped the rail,
Not a soul was left behind to tell the gruesome tale.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

The cat it had some company one night out in the yard,
Someone threw a boot-jack, and they threw it mighty hard;
It caught the cat behind the ear, she thought it rather slight,
When along came a brick-bat and knocked the cat out of sight

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

Away across the ocean they did send the cat at last,
Vessel only out a day and making water fast;
People all began to pray, the boat began to toss,
A great big gust of wind came by and every soul was lost.
But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

On a telegraph wire, sparrows sitting in a bunch,
The cat was feeling hungry, thought she'd like 'em for a lunch;
Climbing softly up the pole, and when she reached the top,
Put her foot upon the electric wire, which tied her in a knot.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

The cat was a possessor of a family of its own,
With seven little kittens till there came a cyclone;
Blew the houses all apart and tossed the cat around,
The air was full of kittens, and not a one was ever found.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea

The atom bomb fell just the other day,
The H-Bomb fell in the very same way;
Russia went, England went, and then the U.S.A.
The human race was finished without a chance to pray.

But the cat came back the very next day,
The cat came back, we thought he was a goner
But the cat came back; it just couldn't stay away.
Away, away, yea, yea, yea
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This year, Thanksgiving was radically different. It deviated from our traditional Thanksgiving rhythm of alternating, family dining, because it followed so close on the heels of Mary’s death and Kathy’s ear surgery, and because it featured a game of Catholic Jeopardy, with a Jewish participant.

Coming from two large, Catholic, families, with strong holiday traditions, Thanksgiving had always presented a problem to Kathy and me. Since our early dating years, we were faced with the dilemma, with which family should we spend Thanksgiving? Always the compromisers, we decided to alternate the holiday. Greaney Thanksgiving, on odd years, at the home of Mary and Doctor Greaney, or one of their children, and Delgado Thanksgiving, on even years, at the home of Guera Delgado, or one of her children. It was Kathy, with her self-deprecating humor, who developed the mnemonic prompt to remind us of the correct sequence of alternating years: “Greaney’s are odd, Delgado’s are even” (I was never quite sure how Delgado’s were even: even tempered? Even minded? Or even odder?). Over time, and with the increase of family members, we began hosting the Delgado Thanksgiving at our home, because it could accommodate a large gathering better than anyone else could. We had been following this schedule for six years, until now.

In this even year of 2006, two things happened to upset this Thanksgiving rhythm. On October 2, we scheduled a critical ear surgery for Kathy on the first available date, which was the Monday of Thanksgiving week, and Kathy’s mother, Mary, died on October 30, a month before Thanksgiving. The surgery, and its required post-surgical care and recovery, were the primary reasons for canceling the Thanksgiving tradition, but grief over Mary’s death was an unspoken, supporting fact.

I’m still not sure what family ramifications were set in motion when I told my mother that we could not host the Delgado’s for Thanksgiving this year. There was a long pause on the phone, some stumbling speech, and then much concern over Kathy’s impending surgery. Later, I heard that there was a high level of uncertainty among the Delgado siblings over who could, and who wanted to, host dinner on Thanksgiving. At one time, I still honestly believed that we could attend someone else’s Thanksgiving dinner. That assumption evaporated when Prisa voiced her opposition to any idea that would leave her Mom at home during her recuperation. Prisa’s view clarified the issue for all of us, and there developed an overwhelming consensus that, for the first time ever, we would have our own family dinner at Thanksgiving.
Kathy’s surgery on Monday was successful, and by Thursday, she was feeling more and more healthy and confident. Although the hearing in her left ear would be very poor until the reconstructive surgery in August, Kathy was up and about.


I think our first Thanksgiving dinner went well. We had never cooked a turkey ourselves, so Prisa and her roommate Stacy came early to help prepare the dinner we had ordered from Gelson’s market. The evening had the feel of a “regular” family dinner, except for one guest Tonito had invited. His name was Jonathan, and he would be the only stranger in the group for the evening. The only tension I felt was self-imposed: I wanted Jonathan to feel welcomed and accepted in our home, and I wanted to make a positive impression on him. This job is usually allocated to Kathy, who has the wit, confidence, and personality to charm guests and make them feel comfortable. On Thursday, however, Kathy was engaged with Stacy and Prisa in preparing the Thanksgiving meal, and having “kitchen talk” about what was going on in their lives. Therefore, I was left to my own devices to entertain our guest, along with Tonito.

As the evening progressed, we all soon relaxed and stopped being self-conscious about ourselves. The novel item for discussion that evening was the Classroom Jeopardy Game that Kathy had brought from school. Of special interest was the “Catholic Jeopardy” component, which Kathy had ordered. While explaining the variety of ways in which Kathy and Tonito planned to utilize this game, I discovered that Jonathan was Jewish. He was, in fact, the only non-Catholic in a group of 6 people (seven after dinner, when Mary K, Kathy’s friend dropped by for dessert) who were fascinated with this game and insisted on playing it. This could have been isolating for Jonathon, if not handled properly. Here is where Kathy’s charm and humor paid off. She went straight to the heart of the momentary awkwardness and made jokes about it. Any potential tension was dispelled and Jonathan was encouraged to be part of a family game. I was also confident that Jonathan would be naturally inclined to play along with any type of game. He and Tonito are committed “gamers”. They are puzzle and game fanatics, who participate in puzzle conventions, games, and “hunts” throughout the state and country. In fact, this common interest introduced them to each other and encouraged the friendship.

So, after our delicious turkey dinner, with Gewurztraminer wine, the highlight of Thanksgiving was a rousing team game of Catholic Jeopardy, with EVERYONE involved. It was pretty funny, and ironic. Prisa, a Catholic high school English teacher, Stacy, a Catholic elementary Religion teacher, Kathy, a Catholic elementary principal, and Jonathan, who was paired with Mary, a Catholic high school Religion teacher, played a round of single and Double Jeopardy on categories ranging from “Name That Sin” to “Say Your Prayers”. Ultimately, Stacy won the game. The irony was that Jonathon got the Final Jeopardy question correct, and most of the others did not. This only goes to show that knowledge of the Old Testament (Torah) is the below-the-surface part of the Iceberg called Catholicism.

Looking back, it was an unusual, but enjoyable Thanksgiving. The distraction of having our own dinner and playing Catholic Jeopardy took our minds off Mary’s death and Kathy’s recuperation. We were thankful for being healthy, alive, and together with friends and family whom we love. It was an upbeat evening with an afterglow that lasted many days later.
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It was dark by 5:30 P.M., and little could be seen beyond the lighted perimeter of California Highway 91. Billboards, gas station signs, and large shop signs were sometimes visible over the freeway walls, but none of the scenery and hills along the route. We were just a tiny part of the long, winding, snake of headlights making their way out of Los Angeles, through Anaheim, toward Riverside, in route to Palms Springs. But Palms Springs was not our actual destination. I was in a truck with Jim and John, and we were heading to Pioneertown, CA, to meet up with Greg. This would be my second visit to Pioneertown.

In December of 2003, Jim had suggested a quick overnight journey to Palms Springs. The trip was to serve the dual purpose of reuniting the four or us, and discovering a new part of California. Jim had read an obscure travel article about a small rustic, high desert, resort called Pioneertown, just north of Yucca Valley, near Palms Springs. He thought that its midway location, between San Diego and Los Angeles, would provide accessible travel times to both Greg and us, and curiosity would motivate us the rest of the way. Although Greg was never able to make the trip that December, the three of us did.

Pioneertown proved to be a marvelous discovery. We spent that night in the Pioneertown Motel, a log cabin-looking lodge, explored a frontier town-looking Mane Street and the surrounding desert areas, grooved to the mellow Blues performed at Pappy and Harriet’s Pioneertown Palace, and swore to return someday, with Greg. It was a retreat that offered simple beauty, and sweet solitude. I was especially captivated by a paragraph in the motel’s flyer claiming that Pioneertown had been a popular retreat for Hollywood artists and writers. It fascinated me that this scenic locale could have been home to a colony of artists, or a school for writers.


B

What would you think of the title, The Lone Pine School of Writing? What about the Pioneertown School of Writing? Is it a title for a story, a magazine article, or a name of an actual school of writing? I haven’t really decided. I suppose I first thought of it in the context of my three friends who come together annually to reconnect and refresh our friendship. We tell stories of the past and present, and discuss the future, but only one of us wants to record these occasions. Me. I am the one who feels the need to write, but I also see their potential. John, Jim, and Greg could all become artists or writers. The Lone Pine School of Writing was a prod to make them believe that they had the ability to express themselves through art, or put them on paper. When I talked about it to them, they laughed and ignored me.

We first became friends during our senior year in high school. I was in the same Class of 1966 with Greg and Jim, and John was Jim’s younger brother, in the class below us. The friendships matured during college, despite our diasporas to different schools. I went to UCLA. Greg went to Santa Monica Junior College, Long Beach State, and UC Riverside. Jim went to Cerritos Junior College, and Cal State Fullerton. John went to Viet Nam for two tours of duty. It was during those college years that we began traveling together, throughout California, and Baja California. First to Big Sur, then to Monterey, San Francisco, Sacramento, San Luis Obispo, Lone Pine, Mammoth, Ensenada, and Rosarito. The trips would be discussed and finalized when we came together on Fridays or weekends, to hang out, go out, see a movie, or just play cards, drink, and talk.


For many people, college years and the bachelor days that follow, can be times of great loneliness and desperation. For us, those were the best times, because they were supported by the constant encouragement and reassurances that only high school friends can provide. I would date and break up, or I would pine away for girls who were indifferent to me, but I could always count on the faithfulness of my friends. I might form other alliances at school and work, but I would always respond to the bugle call of “Let’s meet at John’s for cards and beer”. We were all dreamers, then. They were different dreams, but when they were threaded together on the occasions that we met, we believed that we had experienced them equally.

Over the following years of marriage, careers, families, disappointments, and successes, we had fallen into a seasonal pattern of meetings, trips, and reunions. We would decide to get together at a variety of locations in California or Mexico, depending on the climate, interest, availability or inclination. Ideally, all four of us would reunite. When that was not possible, those who could, would meet and “bad mouth” those who couldn’t.


The four of us had not been together since our trek to Stovepipe Wells, near Death Valley, in fall of 2005. It was there that I had again mentioned the idea of our becoming a colony of writers, dubbing it the Lone Pine School. The proposition was received with the same indifference as the year before. So, I took photographs to record our explorations of Beatty and Ryolite, Nevada, and assumed that there would be more opportunities to talk of life, loves, and retirement, and discuss artistic expressions.

John, Greg, and I had managed to get together on three occasions during the 2006 year: a weekend in January, to Rosarito and Ensenada to scout hotel accommodations and tour the wine country in that part of Mexico; another weekend in April, to participate in the Rosarito-Ensenada Bicycle Fun Ride, with their adult children taking part in the ride; and finally, another weekend in June, to San Francisco, to participate in the Bay To Breakers Race. All three events had been memorable and enjoyable, but they lacked the sense of continuity that existed when the four of us were together. It was finally Jim, the black sheep, and oft-absence member of the group, who, when prompted by an email from Greg to meet somewhere, proposed a re-visit to Pioneertown.

C

Pioneertown, California is an unincorporated, small town in the Morongo Basin region of Southern California, approximately midway between Palms Springs and Joshua Tree.

Pioneertown is about 130 miles east of Hollywood. To reach this high desert community, one takes Interstate 10 about 100 miles to Highway 62 (29 Palms Highway - Joshua Tree National Park). After driving about 25 miles NE on Highway 62 to Yucca Valley, you can look for the sign; “Pioneer Town”. Turn left (north) on Pioneertown Road for about 5 miles. First, you'll see the sign: “Pioneetown 1946”, then look for Pappy & Harriet's Pioneertown Palace or The Pioneeer Bowl. The Pioneertown Motel is located just behind Pappy & Harriets on Curtis Road.

Pioneertown was founded in 1946 by a group of Hollywood personalities led by cowboy actors Dick Curtis and Russell Hayden, as a permanent frontier town for filming western movies. On September 1, 1946, Roy Rogers broke ground for the first buildings, assisted by the Sons of the Pioneers, from whom the town takes its name. Though it was built as a real town, it was also built as a permanent movie set by a group of investors who envisioned an 1870’s frontier town that would also function as a living movie set. Over 200 movies and TV serials were filmed there, as were an unknown number of background shorts for other productions. TV westerns, including the The Gene Autry Show, The Cisco Kid, Annie Oakley, and The Adventures of Judge Roy Bean were filmed here. Western stars including Roy Rogers, Dale Evans, Gail Davis (Annie Oakley), Duncan Renaldo (The Cisco Kid), Leo Carrillo (Pancho), Gene Autry, The Sons of the Pioneers (for whom the town was named), Jock Mahoney (The Range Rider) and Russell Hayden, (Hopalong Cassidy movie series) all walked and worked these dirt roads and streets. Other movie greats including Barbara Stanwyck, Jackie Coogan, Dick Jones, Edgar Buchanan, Tom Skerritt and Barry Sullivan all made movies here from 1948 to 1998.

In 1960, after bankruptcy claimed much of the town, a silver- tressed matriarch, named Frances Aleba, purchased several buildings on Mane Street, including the old gas station. She turned the gas station into the "Cantina", and it became famous for its Mexican-style food and somewhat infamous for its motorcycle riding clientele. Around 1980 Fran turned her business over to her daughter, Harriet Allen, and her husband Pappy. For the next decade, the food, the music, the people and the unequaled ambience of Pappy and Harriet's Pioneertown Palace thrilled locals and visitors world-wide. After Pappy's death in 1992, Harriet carried on until she sold the business to its current owners. Pappy and Harriet’s continues to thrive in Pioneertown, and it attracts guests, diners, and music lovers from the entire Palms Springs area.

The Pioneertown Motel, which was originally called The Townhouse, was built in 1947-48 by Dick Curtis, Roy Rogers and Russell Hayden. When the Saturday Evening Post writer, H. Allen Smith, visited Pioneertown in the Fall of 1949, the motel was already being put to pragmatic use by movie makers. Columbia Pictures was shooting its serial, “Cody of The Pony Express” starring Jock Mahoney and Dickie Moore. Their cavalry fort was none other than the motel with a log-gate-facade strategically placed in the camera-foreground. This illustrated the "double purpose" Dick Curtis originally envisioned when he had ridden into the Sawtooth Basin on horseback years before. First: design all buildings for an old west period look; second: construct them as solid permanent dwellings to house and feed cast, crew and support labor. The motel became the embodiment of this plan. No doubt the Columbia crew using the motel as a fort by day, boarded there at night. Phil Krasne, producer of the “The Cisco Kid” series, estimated this efficiency factor shaved 3 days off any of his schedules for a savings of $30,000.

The Pioneer Bowl, Hayden Ranch, and Mane Street have been designated by the State Department of Parks and Recreation as historical resources.

D

After a torturously long drive to Beaumont, the traffic finally lightened up, and we found ourselves speeding along Interstate 10 towards Palms Springs. I had spoken with Greg via cell phone on a couple of occasions already, and we suspected that he was approximately 10 minutes behind us. Even though we could easily have driven straight through to Pioneertown and met up with him there, a stronger imperative seemed to urge us to band together as soon as possible. We identified the intersection of Interstate 10 and Twenty-nine Palms Highway as our rendevous point, and met there. Jim jumped into Greg’s car, and we all proceeded to our reunion in Pioneertown.

We checked into the Pioneertown Motel and spent our time on Friday between our rooms and Pappy and Harriet’s Palace. The Palace is always a wonder. It is such a “dive” looking roadhouse, but it serves up the best music and food in the county. There was a Tex-Mex Blues band playing that evening who reminded us of Los Lobos. They were great. After dinner, we made our way back to the patio area outside our rooms to catch up on our lives and activities. John provided the necessary liquid lubrication to facilitate our communication, and we spent the rest of the night, and early morning, talking, arguing, joking, and laughing. We were all in good health and spirits, and looking forward to retirement (except for John, who took an early retirement from the LA Fire Department last year). There were no startling revelations in our affairs, and our lives seemed to be pretty predictable and mundane.

On Saturday we just “hung out” together, talking, and making decisions by consensus: “What do you want to do? I don’t know, what do you want to do?” Jim’s suggestions usually won out. I think this is because he is the only “real” bachelor in the bunch. That is, one who has never been married. He also has the strongest ego, with many eccentric preferences. The rest of us are usually willing to concede to him to avoid useless head-butting, or arguments. There were remarkably few fights on this trip. We did do considerable eating and drinking. The only exercise was our walk along Mane Street, through the center of the frontier town stores and buildings on Saturday morning. Other than that, we pretty much sat around, watched TV, drank beer and wine, and ate. Looking back, it was a very civilized way to spend a weekend with friends, away from work, troubles, and responsibilities .

On this trip, I was especially captivated by the story of how Pioneertown was founded by Dick Curtis, Russell Hayden, and a group of their western movie friends. Here were a bunch of cowboys-turned stuntmen, and “B – Movie” actors, who wanted to build a place of their own. It appears they envisioned something of an early-day Universal Studios: a working frontier western movie set, with frontier town facades, and a tourist attraction with stores, arcades, and entertainment centers built on the other sides of the sets. I’d like to believe that it was founded by buddies with a dream. Not a big dream, just a dream of building a self-supporting place where they could just “hang out” in a locale that would not entice wives. They could ride horses, go bowling, listen to music, eat and drink. It sounds like a club! An all boys club! Pioneertown even got its name from a group of buddies who backed this idea, the Sons of the Pioneers (a western singing and acting group of men). Those guys could ride, rope, shoot, drink, and sing. They were more than cowboys, they were artists who sought a place to play and work.

Needless to say, their golden dream never panned out. Although hundreds of movie and TV westerns were filmed there, Pioneertown never became a lasting success as a permanent movie set and tourist attraction. It simply continues to exist as a testament to men’s desire to build a place where men can bond, play, share stories, create, and grow old together. This would correspond with the need that Jim, John, Greg, and I have to meet, revisit the past, discuss the present, and worry about the future. We have also talked about buying rustic homes and retreats in the deserts and mountains to which only we can escape. I suppose that if we had the money (or financial support) and a common profession, a Pioneertown concept might have been something we would have made into fact. Who knows, we could have become the new Sons of Pioneertown.

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Mary Cavanaugh died on Monday, October 30, 2006, at approximately 11:30 A.M. at Huntington Memorial Hospital in Pasadena. She was 85 years old, and she died of a cerebral hemorrage, following a stroke she suffered earlier in the morning. At the moment her spirit was released from the slight and failing body she inhabited, Mary was surrounded by her family, which constituted the alpha and the omega of her life as an adult.

Mary was the only woman whose scoldings and commands I always took very seriously. If she detected a sarcastic or mocking tone in my voice or conversation, she would immediately interrupt my discussion with a sharply phrased, “Tony, cut that out!” If Mary said it, I would obey. While I might dismiss such warnings from my own mother, Kathy, or Prisa, I always took Mary at her word. I don’t think I obeyed out of fear, because Mary was never scary or frightening. I think I did it out of total respect for this straightforward, honest, and no-nonsense lady. Plus, I never wanted to jeapordize her fierce love and acceptance. I always wanted Mary on my side.

I remember a saying my Dad told me before he died: “When you meet the girl you love and want to marry, look carefully at her mother. In her mother you will find the core and essence of the wife she will become”. I saw something special in Mary the first time I met her in 1973. I saw a lean, attractive, and charming woman, who immediately demonstrated a tough, independent, and intelligent character. She asked direct questions and did not brook foolishness or evasive responses. I formed an immediate dual impression of Mary; she could be a fierce lioness, protecting home and children, and a sweet and tender madonna, soothingly, wiping away the tears of her hurt children.


When Kathy told her mother that she loved me, and I her, Mary embraced me with the love she reserved for her own children. It was a passionate, all-encompassing, but conditional love. If I fulfilled my covenant to love and respect her daughter, she was on my side forever. It was a love that I never wanted to risk. So, I accepted the scoldings and her fiesty commands when we visited at Weddington, Capistrano, and Pasadena. I heeded them as sage advise that would make me a better husband and father.

Much of that feistiness diminished after Debbie’s death in 2003. Up until that calamitous event, Mary remained vital, strong, and ageless. Always a lovely woman, she maintained a beauteous grace through her 70’s and into her 80’s. However, everything seemed to change after Debbie’s death. Mary became ill, suffered falls, and had accidents. For the first time, she appeared more and more elderly, tiny, and frail. With the growing loss of sight and hearing, she seemed to be disconnecting from this life. But she never lost her love of family and friends, or her joy in their company.


On October 21, 2006, Kathy and I surprised Mary and the Doctor with an unexpected visit to their El Mirador home. We encountered Frosty, an old college friend of Kathy’s, at the wedding of a daughter of another college friend, at Holy Family Church in South Pasadena. Acting on inspiration, Kathy suggested that we make a quick visit to her parents, before the wedding reception. Frosty asked to be included. She had not seen them in over 15 years, and she wanted Mary and the Doctor to meet her adopted daughter, Mia. I remember Mary glowing with energy on that day, and being completely present to her guests. She sat next to Frosty and Mia, intently looking into their faces, and asking sharp, concise questions about their lives, family, and events. She took Mia’s innocent face between her gentle and weathered hands, and stated that she was the most beautiful and intelligent girl in the world. It was the happiest of days, and Mary seemed ageless.

The next time I was at the El Mirador house was after leaving the hospital on the day of Mary’s death. I remember sitting with Greg, thinking how different Mary had looked on her death bed that morning. It occurred to me, that perhaps Mary had died today, because her vital core of fierce and tender love could no longer be contained in such a tiny, fragile, and delicate body. I told Greg that the song “I Shall Be Released” kept coming to my mind as I thought of Mary. He looked at me quizzically and reminded me that the song was written by Bob Dylan, about a prisoner in jail. I told him that I believed prison was a common metaphor for our life on earth, and that the song had to be about something more than a convict’s lament. Later that day, on the computer, I found the lyrics to the song that had been haunting me all day:

“They say ev’rything can be replaced,
Yet ev’ry distance is not near.
So I remember ev’ry face
Of ev’ry man who put me here.

I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.

They say ev’ry man needs protection,
They say ev’ry man must fall.
Yet I swear I see my reflection
Some place so high above this wall.

I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.

Standing next to me in this lonely
crowd,
Is a man who swears he’s not to
blame.
All day long I hear him shout so
loud,
crying out that he was framed.

I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released”.

The light of Mary Cavanaugh has been released.



God bless you, Mary. I will miss your loving scoldings, and your generous, tender commands. You made me a better man, husband, and father.

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Sight
n 1: an instance of visual perception; "the sight of his wife
brought him back to reality"; "the train was an
unexpected sight"
2: anything that is seen; "he was a familiar sight on the
television" or "they went to Paris to see the sights"
3: the ability to see; the faculty of vision [syn: vision,
visual sense, visual modality]
4: a optical instrument for aiding the eye in aiming, as on a
firearm or surveying instrument
5: a range of mental vision; "in his sight she could do no
wrong"
6: the range of vision; "out of sight of land" [syn: ken]
7: the act of looking or seeing or observing; "he tried to get
a better view of it"; "his survey of the battlefield was
limited" [syn: view, survey]

I
I awoke from the soft embrace of the sofa couch to the seductive commentary of the Golf Channel. It was about 3 o’clock in the afternoon. I cleared my head and immediately tested my sight on the television screen. The vision in my right eye was bright, but blurry. When I alternated looking through my right eye, only, and then my left, I noticed a sharp difference in contrast and detail, good in my left, bad in my right. I was beginning to panic. The doctor had screwed up. My medical plan had foisted a quack on me, and my sight would pay the price. I had pushed my luck too far, believing that a “perfect” second cataract operation was possible. I silently cursed my optic luck: I should have waited, I should have sought out my previous surgeon, I should of…... Then I decided to but this out of my head, for now, pretend that everything was going to be fine, and stop overreacting.

I spent the rest of that evening taking my post-operation medications and watching TV. There was one, small, nagging, hope left in my Pandora’s Box of post-surgical expectations. I was experiencing a small degree of itching, soreness, and discomfort in my new right eye. Was I expecting too much at this time? Was 20/20 vision in my new right lens an unreal hope? Was my discomfort a sign that my eye was recovering from a huge physical trauma and it was still hurt and swollen? It seemed hard to believe, because there was no real pain. But, I decided to sleep on it, and give my eye more time to recover before I made a final judgment on my plight.

II

The previous morning, at 7:30 a.m., I underwent cataract surgery for the second time. The experience was no less nerve wracking than it was three years ago, when I had no idea what to expect. Knowing the sequence of events and procedures leading to the oblivion of anesthetic did not make me feel safer or more secure. In fact, it was worse. I was anticipating things, like, the embarrassment of being unable to tie the strings of the surgical smock behind my back, the creeping coldness that covered me as I lay on the gurney waiting for the anesthesiologist, and the fear that statistics were always present in an operating room, and that surgery was fraught with possible disasters. I was scared then, and I was more scared now.

What calmed me was my wife’s nearby presence. She had awakened early, driven me to the surgical center, and patiently sat with me as I, silent and stoic in the lobby, waited to be “prepped” for surgery. Even when separated, I knew she was near, worrying and praying for a successful operation. Her thoughts would keep me safe. Mindful breathing, with my eyes closed, could not shorten the long, chilly, and distracting wait in the “prep room”. Eventually the anesthesiologist arrived, introduced himself, and left. Soon after, I was wheeled into the operating room, saw my doctor and a nurse, and fell asleep. I awoke, without bandages, to a nurse telling me that my wife was on her way. She was the first thing I remember seeing after the operation.

I knew what had happened in the operating room from my prior research of the procedure. An incision is made in the membrane of the eye, and the diseased cataract lens is extracted. Then a new and clear artificial lens is implanted. In all, the operation takes about 15 minutes, with another 30 minutes to recover from the anesthetic. It is a simple procedure, barring bad luck, infection, or error. The nurse assured us that everything had gone well, and she recited the litany of post-surgical medications and precautions I needed to follow.

With a weary sense of relief, I managed to walk steadily to the locker room and clothe myself. I retraced my steps back to K and the nurse who waited with the necessary wheel chair, and finally, I climbed into the passenger seat of the car. As my wife drove home, all I wanted to do was slip onto the family room couch, close my eyes to the sound of a golf tournament on television, and sleep. Everything would be fine with rest and sleep.

III

Today was a new day! What a relief it is to see clearly!

When I awoke this morning and got into the bathroom, I noticed a big improvement. My right eye felt better, and the difference in visual clarity between right and left eye was smaller. However, precise vision in my right eye still seemed to come in waves, undulating from high to low definition, and back again. My eye felt more normal, less swollen, and without soreness, but I was still nervous and unsure. After breakfast at the local coffee house, I left to the “post-op” visit to my doctor.

It was so comforting to hear him finally validate what I had begun to suspect this morning. The clarity of detail in my recently operated right eye was slowly improving after yesterday’s operation; the doctor’s message was positive and affirming. He was pleased by the speed in which my vision was returning. It would take 6 weeks to heal completely, but detail would improve steadily. However, a question still nagged me as I drove home from his office. Why was this recovery so different from my first cataract surgery three years ago? After my first cataract operation, EVERYTHING WAS IMMEDIATELY BETTER! I did not recall experiencing any fear or panic then.

Then I got it. I had been diagnosed with cataracts in both eyes three years ago, but medical protocol dictated surgery in only one. So I had opted for the removal of the most diseased lens, my left, leaving my right for a later operation. After the first surgery, it did not matter that my left eye was sore, swollen, and blurry, my vision was better than it had ever been before. I was no longer seeing light and objects through a veil of thick yellow lacquer that obscured details in a dark golden glow. Everything was now bright. When I alternated between eyes, my new lens showed the promise of continuous light, while my right hid it through an opaque film.

I suppose I had been looking forward to another epiphany of light and clarity after this second operation. It did not happen. My new eye was not born in a flood of brilliant illumination. Instead, it only promised a steady revelation of detail as I recovered from trauma and soreness. Pretty soon my sight would seem ordinary and normal. It was sad, in a way. My roll coaster ride of emotions was ending; it had gone from uncertainty, fear, and panic, to joy, disappointment, and acceptance. I would finally be left with two cataract-free eyes and the potential of seeing clearly. What a challenge, and what a gift! Will I have the wisdom to see what is truly there, or just the ability to perceive light and objects? We will have to wait and see.

(Friday, October 20, 2006)
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Well, here we are, September 30, 2006, the last day of the month, and I am now 59 years old. I am nine years older than I ever imagined when I was in my 30’s and 40’s. I’m writing on my blog, rather than my journal, because I needed more space to discuss the events and ramifications of last Sunday’s fire at my school.

Sunday had started out a really enjoyable day. The family assembled at Mass at 9:30 A.M., to hear Tony perform the First Reading of the Celebration of the Word, and later we went to brunch at a coffee shop to celebrate my birthday. I opened gifts, talked about what Tony and Prisa were doing in their lives, and laughed and kidded about the detours and surprises we were experiencing. DVD’s were a big hit. I received the entire HBO season of “Rome” from Kathy, and the first season of the new “Doctor Who” BBC T.V. series. Prisa provided me with UCLA gear I never have the time to buy for myself, anymore. After brunch, the kids took me to the cinema to see Jet Li’s new movie, “Fearless”. All in all, it was a rich haul in gifts and memories. Sunday was a leisurely and languid day with family, a great way to say goodbye to my last year in my 50’s.

The evening was settling into relaxing time with Kathy and me. We had some time alone, watched the news on T.V., and then decided to watch my new DVD, “Rome”, with cocktails and chips. Just as I was settling into my first drink, the phone call came at about 7:30 P.M. one of the coordinators called to inform me that he had received a telephone call from a teacher at school who was reporting that there were fire engines and trucks at school. There were no details, but both suspected that there was a fire at school.

These are the moments I hate as a principal. I dread being informed of events or situations which I have never experienced, because I have no guide to steer my actions or responses. The one mantra I kept repeating to myself was, “Act like you know what you're doing, act like you know what you're doing….” A slow, creeping fear seeped into me as I thanked my coordinator for the “heads up” about the fire. Horrible images of fire trucks, burning buildings, classrooms, and furniture, and endless torrents of water being shot through pressurized hoses gushing into offices, and down hallways, filled my mind. I looked over at my wife, who had been attentive to my exclamations and questions while on the telephone, and said, “I think there is a fire at school”. After her sympathetic words and sounds, she asked the inevitable question, “What are you going to do?” My honest reply was, “I don’t know”. What does one do when all they feel is a growing panic and insecurity? All I knew for sure was that I didn’t want to be here, I didn’t want to know about the fire, and I wished no one had called.

Even as these “fright and flight” sensations coursed through my body, I found myself picking up the phone and thinking, “Who do I need to call for help and information?” I found my school directory, and called my plant manager. District protocol required that the school’s plant manager be contacted first whenever there was a school disaster or emergency. If anyone knows the facts, it would be Cedric. I called his cell number, received the message that he was not available, and left a message for him to call me back. Just as I was ready to call another number, my cell phone rang. It was Cedric. His voice sounded strained and highly pitched. He told me that there had been a fire in the Administration Building, but the fire fighters had not informed him of the extent of the damage. He told me that he was going to speak to the fire fighters and would call me back with more information.

At this point I felt better. Action was having a soothing affect on my nerves. Cedric was at the scene, he was investigating the cause and extent of the damage, and he was taking charge. All I needed to do was just keep supporting him. So, I continued using the telephone. I called each of my administrators at their homes and informed them, mostly by message (only one was at home that evening), of what had occurred and our need to meet early the next morning. After the last call was made, I picked up my unfinished cocktail and sat down. My wife was looking at me with a puzzled look of concern and apprehension. I wanted to have another drink. I wanted to watch the end of the episode of “Rome” we had just started. I wanted to pretend that none of this was really happening to me, and that I wasn’t the only person really in charge of this emergency. I looked again at my wife and said, “I can’t stay here. I have to find out what is going on at school”. My temporary sensation of satisfaction deserted me as I plummeted, feet first, into a black whirlpool of anger and self pity.

Every step I took, every action leading to my departure, was punctuated with a curse or profanity. “God damn, my luck! What fucking student arsonists! What a shitty, ghetto school!” I felt powerless; like I was being led against my will. I should not be leaving my cocktail, my TV show, and my home, to investigate a fire! Kathy was scurrying about, trying to help by anticipating my needs. She offered to make coffee and kept assuring me that I needed to go and find out what was really happening. Her encouragement was wasted on me, as my mood darkened.

By the time I was dressed and ready to leave, the coffee wasn’t. “Fuck the coffee”, I said to Kathy, “I’ll pick some up at Starbucks on my way to the freeway”. I thought that nothing was going right, as I walked into the garage. I got into the car and backed up into the street. When I realized that I had not looked before completing this maneuver, I started repeating to myself, “OK, slow down, take it easy. Slow down, take it easy.” But although the mantra worked to slow down my driving, it did not lighten my mood.

As I drove up the Canyon leading to the freeway, memories of past school catastrophes poured into my head: The fire that consumed the Girl’s P.E. office; the asbestos floor tile emergency that forced the evacuation of half the school; and the angry picketing of parents demanding my removal before 3 TV station cameras. I was sure that the fates were, again, conspiring against me. I concluded, in fact, that from the very first day at this new school, I had been overwhelmed by one emergency after another; the inferior personnel, the bankrupted budget, and the plague of weekly graffiti, break-ins, and vandalism. In the midst of this swirling orgy of self-pity, visions of the possible damage I would find began to seep into my consciousness: flames sprouting out of rows of second floor windows, pressurized water gushing into classrooms and down hallways, and pillowing clouds of black smoke engulfing the skies around the school.

When I parked in front of Starbucks, I could not remember how I had gotten there, or when I had breathed last. Wave after wave of murky, suffocating depression pounded over my head, filling my lungs, and drowning me in fear and sadness. I managed to enter the store and get into a long line of customers. Thank God, I was distracted from the images racing through my head by the complicated selection menu over the counter. For the entire time I waited in line, I recited a bizarre obsessive compulsive chant of the coffee brand and size I might order. By the time the server greeted me, I blurted, “Drip Coffee, the House blend, grande, please”.

It was when I was pouring sugar into my grande cup that I looked out the store window. There was a group of 5 teenaged youngsters sitting around a table, smoking, talking, and laughing. I looked hard at a tall, gangly, young man in the middle, and thought, “I know that boy”. His name came to me in a flash, “David”. It was David, a boy I had known for 3 years at Shangri-la Middle School. I remembered greeting him almost every morning as he was dropped off by his mother at the front of school. As an 8th grader, he worked in the Main Office, and would walk into my office on many occasions to talk and make me laugh with his wry and self-deprecating humor. I had been especially touched when he and his mother presented me a departing graduation gift of an American flag tie. They said the design was significant because it was for the comfort I had given them both on September 11, 2001. On that morning, they had come up to me, as I was greeting students on the sidewalk in front of school, and asked if it was safe to attend, or should they go home. My answer was a heartfelt message that I had used many times that day, “I guarantee you, that David is safer here, today, than anywhere else in the world”. I had forgotten that exchange, but, obviously, David and his mother had not.

Seeing David again, older, taller, and comfortably smoking and laughing with friends filled me with joy. “What a treat”, I thought. I haven’t seen him since he graduated. I walked outside and advanced on the youthful group. I pointed at him, and asked, “David?” His look of shock and amazement assured me of his identity, and his shout of “Mr. D!” confirmed it. As he was explaining who I was to his friends, I decided to keep my remarks short and succinct: “I’m on my way to an urgent appointment, but I wanted to say hi. You look great and all grown up. You are a young man, now, and smoking! What would your mother say. I’m kidding. Say hi to your mom, for me”.

Walking back to my car, I was smiling, and shaking my head in wonderment at this chance encounter with this special student from my past. “How strange that it should happen now”, I thought. It was then that it hit me. My hand froze on the door handle of the car, and I realized that all of my fearful, imaginary, and self-pitting thoughts had vanished. I was here, in the Starbuck’s parking lot, getting ready to drive to my school to investigate an unconfirmed arson and fire. These were the facts; everything else had been a wild fire of memory and imagination, fueled by anger and self-pity. Everything had changed with this unexpected meeting, which might never have occurred: Kathy’s coffee had not been ready, I focused on my driving and remembered to stop at Starbucks, I cleared my mind in the waiting line, I looked out the window at the confection station, and I allowed myself to see what was before my eyes. Was this an accident, chance, or was it a sign? I started to think that something had stepped into the middle of my despair and shown me the way out.

The rest of the ride was thought-less, except for the question I kept asking myself. “Have I been given other signs like this, at other moments of crisis, but never had the wisdom to see them?” Only one occasion came to mind. It was last year following a period of student unrest, and a series of off-campus fights. An angry-faced parent had barged, unexpectedly, into my office. Fearing the worst, I had hardened my heart and put on my stone-faced expression to weather the onslaught. But the siege did not come. The parent had not come to attack or complain, she had come seeking reassurances that her daughter was safe at my school. She was frightened about what she had heard, and she didn’t know if it was true or false. I promised her that her child was safe, and she was comforted by my words. However, upon her departure, I remember interpreting my encounter with her as a sign to act. I became convinced that more parents than I suspected felt alarmed and frightened, and decisive actions were required on my part to demonstrate to them that we were vigilant and prepared to protect the safety and well being of their children. I believed that my encounter with David was other such sign. I needed to act as a principal tonight, and not worry about my ability to do so.

The passage of time went swiftly, as I drove. I was conscious only of my breathing, and my altered frame of mind. Breathing in, I felt alive. Breathing out, I felt safe. All of my fearful memories and imaginary visions floated freely down through my thoughts, without clinging to my consciousness. They were not real, and I did not worry about them any more. The facts were waiting for me at school. I would deal with them when I found them. I had experienced these moments of clarity before, when I meditated. I was in a wakeful, meditative state: consciously breathing, without clinging to memories, feelings or emotions.

I saw the fire trucks and street barriers and blockades as I approached the school. I parked a block away and walked toward the first fire fighters I spied. “What do I say, what do I do?”, I kept asking myself. I just remembered to breathe. In a voice that sounded stronger and more confident than I felt, I introduced myself as the principal. A grizzled looking veteran shook my hand and said, “I’m sorry about the fire. Let me take you to the Captain”. He was very kind and solicitous. I had not expected that demeanor from this tall, huge, geared-up professional who battles fires for a living. He guided me into the darkened hallway of the Administration Building, as other combat attired firemen were walking out, lugging their equipment and hoses in their arms and on their shoulders.

“Captain, this is the principal”, my escort said to the equally tall man. He shook my hand, and in a low, gruff voice intoned the now familiar refrain, “I’m sorry about the fire”. He began to describe the nature of the fire and the extent of the damage in a calm and soothing voice, very little of which made immediate sense to me, at that time. Feeling a little dizzy, I looked around at the darkened hallway, the smoke stained walls, and shadowy firefighters walking back and forth. “Where did the fire start?” I finally asked, not caring if he had mentioned it before. He patiently pointed at the Dean’s Office and said, “It started here. It appears they used the microwave oven to detonate the fire in the adjoining room and then it spread here. We were able to localize it and knock it down”. The questions began flowing easier from my slowly clearing mind, and I finally started to get a picture of the fire and its damage. The office fire had not spread. The second floor was safe. They were still checking, but it appeared that none of the classrooms had been damaged. It was safe to turn on the lights and begin clean up operations. “Oh”, the Captain added, “there’s something I need to show you. It has us all confused”.

As we walked back toward the entrance, the Captain began pointing out smashed door windows, explaining that this was also an arson scene. Someone had entered the building, forced entry, vandalized various offices, and started a fire. “An Arson Unit is on site, so please don’t touch anything”, he said. “Is this your office?” he asked. I nodded, and that old sinking feeling of fear and despair began to well up in me as we looked at the smashed door window to my office. We entered, and he turned on the light. “Can you tell us if there has been any damage?” he asked. I was shocked as I looked into the small enclosure that was my office.

At first glance, I could see nothing wrong. Then little anomalies jumped out at me: My walkie talkie radio was gone, there were four wadded-up newspapers strewn on my desk, three confiscated footballs were gone, and one framed picture of me and the Superintendent had been turned face-down on my bookcase. I was stunned. Except for the door, there was no evidence of violence, damage, or destruction. “I don’t get it”, I said, shaking my head in wonder, “it looks pretty much the way I left it on Friday”. “That’s not the only thing”, added the Captain, “look here”. He directed me outside again, and pointed his flashlight beam at the door. “Can you read that?” he asked. I looked closer at a blue post-it note that had been stapled to my door. It read: “SORRY!” I shook my head in total bewilderment. “I don’t know what it means”, I said.

The rest of the evening went by in a blur of activities, introductions, questions, investigations, and speculations. Once the fire department left, I met the Arson Unit operatives, safety inspectors, school police detectives, maintenance and operation teams, and my own school custodians and plant manager. I realized quickly that the only real expert was me. Everyone involved in that fire had a particular expertise and job to do, but few people had the ability to put all the pieces together and see them as a whole. It was only when the Plant Manager, our Complex Plant Manager, and I started inspecting every classroom and school building for damage and utility that we were able to construct a tentative scenario of the events that began with entry through a window in a second floor classroom, to the setting of a microwave fire in the Dean’s Office.

By 11:00 pm, there was no more I could do. Clean up operations would continue through the night. All in all, we were lucky. From the perspective of what could have been, the actual vandalism was relatively small, and the fire damage was localized. School would open on the following morning, and continuous mitigation efforts would slowly remove the smell and look of smoke and soot.

An odd peace settled over me as I walked back to my car on the cold and deserted street. I had done my job well, tonight, I thought. I had walked into a set of unknown factors and I had “acted” the role which I have been “playing” successfully for 15 years. Despite my panic, fears, despair, and self-pity, I had managed to put my thoughts, feelings, and memories aside, and simply ACT.

As I got into my car and drove home, the one nagging thought that still haunted me was, “What did that note on my door mean?” Was it a random, thoughtless act by one of the vandals, or was it a purposeful apology? Was it a message, or a sign? Could it be both? I remembered to breathe again, and as I exhaled, I smiled. The sight and actions of students had certainly saved me this evening. Seeing David and reading that note had yanked me out of despairing emotions and slapped me into present awareness. There was something at work here, I just needed to see it.
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On Sunday, August 20, 2006, Tony, Prisa, and their “significant others” came home for an end of summer visit and BBQ dinner. The movie, “Snakes on the Plane” was a topic of conversation for the evening. What does that phrase mean, anyway, “Snakes on a Plane”? Is it an existentialist mantra, like, “que sera, sera, what will be, will be?” Snakes are on the plane, and we are in the air, so deal with it, because we are not in a position to do very much about this problem. Life sucks, so deal with it. Shit happens, so squat and enjoy it. Perhaps I’m reading too much into the movie. Everyone just laughed at my questions and metaphors. “It’s just a movie, Dad!” Prisa exclaimed.

I’m not so sure. There seems to be a real parallel between the phrase “snakes on a plane” with the First Noble Truth of Buddhism (life is suffering), and St. Paul’s metaphor of the cross (life is a crucifixion).

I really believed that I had cracked the thematic code of the movie (without ever having seen it!), but my children ignored me. They did not laugh. They did not scoff. They simply said: “Dad, it’s just about snakes on a plane”. God bless them, they saw the obvious. Their mother raised them right.

The other issue of discussion was whether or not I needed a TiVo-like device on our television set. I told them, no. I didn’t need it; I didn’t want it; and I wouldn’t use it. They were shocked. They kept reminding me of all the nights I had fallen asleep trying to watch the television programs they were watching. I would invariably fall asleep, never seeing the conclusion of the story, and they would have to wake me, with the admonition, “Dad, it’s over, go to bed”. Wouldn’t it be better if those programs were automatically recorded, so I could watch them whenever I wished?

“No”, I told them, “I didn’t watch those programs to see how they turned out. I watched them to be with you”. It was never about entertainment; it was about proximity. I wanted to be with Prisa or Tonito as they watched TV, not watching my preferred TV programs as they stayed in their separate bedrooms. I wanted to hear them laugh, sigh, and grunt as they watched their daily fare of television programming. Just as Kathy and I used to plan on watching “Fraggle Rock” with the kids on Sunday evenings, I was always ready to watch “Farscape”, “Deep Space Nine”, “Wings”, “Quantum Leap”, “Real Life”, and “Survivor”, just to be close to them.

A moment of enlightenment occurred when I realized that I had done the same thing with my own Father. The years before he died, he would settle into the living room couch as if to watch TV with us. He never indicated his program choice; he was always willing to watch whatever we wished. As the minutes passed while we watched our programs, we would invariably hear his snoring. He had slipped quietly to sleep. I would then shake him awake, with the admonition, “Dad, go to bed. You fell asleep”. He would leap to alertness and tell me that he was fine. He refused to admit that he had lost consciousness. He did not want to leave; he wanted to be with us.

Now I get it. It had never been about my Dad watching a television series we wished to see. It was about being together. My Dad needed to be with us. He needed to feel our warmth and closeness, our love and affection. We were the hearth that warmed his soul. We were his family.

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I’m writing because booze, food, and time are not going to stop me, this evening. The day was satisfyingly full, which is unusual for me, in this period of my life. I’m usually sluggish and boorish. Anyway, it was a satisfying day. Why am I writing here and not in my journal? Good question. Probably because I think too much when I’m writing by hand, and I can just type when I’m writing on my laptop. At least that is what I’m theorizing.

As I said, the day was full. I kept myself extremely busy, tried to be mindful of my actions, recognized my errors, and attempted to correct some of them. Without getting into details, this would seem to describe a pretty good day.

I had some remarkable insights today. While I was sitting at Borders Bookstore (I actually thought it was Barnes and Noble’s Bookstore. It must be that “B” in their name), I came to the conclusion that I should write for an audience of God/Allah/Yaweh/Dharma/No-god/No-Allah/No-Yaweh. In other words, I should just write for me. So, just write Stupid.

That’s what I’m doing. Not on paper tonight. That is too slow. Just writing is the answer. Plus, it gives me an opportunity to type.

Woke up, got out of bed.
I ate pancakes, piled high
with margarine, syrup, and milk.

Read the paper with coffee,
while I watched a movie on TV.
Gary Cooper was captain of a crew
which would be famous after his death.
A telephone call from an assistant
broke the calm of a Saturday afternoon,
to tell of human foibles
and gross behaviors of the vain.
The Dean of soulless bitches,
bent on sly and cunning tricks,
sought to steal the light of children
and maidens yet to bear.

I brushed my teeth, shaved my face,
and took a shower to be clean.
Made a list of where to go:
Costco, Staples, CompUSA,
Borders Bookstore, and BevMo.
Each provided a particular treat.

I tamed the beast at the bookstore,
when I took the measure of my day.
There I realized that it was crazy,
to have let it get this way.
In the café I reconnoitered,
taking bearing of my day.
What I needed was to chart my wishes,
and consider what needed to be done.

So I read outdated entries, and thoughts of long ago,
And believed the Lone Pine School of Writing
was not a ghost of dreams long lost.
That friends, and family, and strangers
can still grow to fill my hopes
of becoming a band of storytellers
to keep our legend real.

I bought some Wilson Pickett,
and 52 songs of Bee,
and washed away my melancholy,
with J&B and Irish Whiskey.
The monitor was too wide,
and the pictures wouldn’t fit.
A mistake was made,
Which the macho man had to admit.

And Harper Lee goes riding,
free of books, boos, or jeers,
And finds the attic of her longings,
in a cigar box from a tree.
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Sunbathing at the beach has not changed much since the summers I would go to Venice Beach or the Marina Del Rey shore. The only real difference is me. I’m forty years older, overweight, and incredibly white. Other than me, the seashore is still populated by the same people, young and old, doing the same things: sitting, talking, sunning, reading, sleeping, walking, playing, surfing, boogie boarding, digging, burying, building, and swimming. What makes these activities so enjoyable is the overwhelming sense of comfort and bliss one feels when they are bye the sea. One is in the midst of a natural wonder; the primordial ocean.

I am still struck by the beauty of the young people who migrate to the beaches for the summer. The boys, girls, women, and men who come to disrobe in public are, for the most part, physically attractive. Although there are always exceptions, seaside sunbathing does not attract the obese, grotesque, or physically ugly people. I really enjoy looking at these youthful Adonis’s and Venus’s, both for their beauty and the nostalgia they elicit. Alas, Kathy and I were like that once, but no longer.
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So, the question is, do I really want to write about the events of this day? Looking at my Daily Project Planner I see that it is filled with drawings of screaming faces and exclamation marks. I’m tempted to pass on this entry. I’ve already mentioned this day and its events in my journal, why repeat it in my blog? Is there a lesson to be learned from today’s events?

One problem after another was thrust on me during the first two hours of my arrival at school today. I was ambushed at the door of my office by my two Literacy Coaches who were in a panic about the possible misuse and mis-teaching of an elective course called “Great Books”. A team of movers from Maintenance and Operations asked me where they could find the tables and chairs they were supposed to move into 3 new classrooms. The Plant Manager could not deal with an angry teacher who had received no assistance in getting her room ready for school on Wednesday. There were not enough tables and chairs to fill three classrooms that were being readied for use. The Central District offices were insisting on a new attendance procedure for the first day of school that neither of my assistant principals could understand. Problems, problems, problems, all threatened to crush me with their speed and weight. But that did not happen. Although I did suffer a headache by the end of the day, there were no lasting wounds from the day’s tribulations.

I’ve taken the initiative with my District superiors by insisting on the “interim” assignment of my Bilingual Coordinator, Tobar, to the vacant position of assistant principal at my school. It is an action motivated by my desire to control the fates that drive my school. However, I usually let these situations run their own course, and permit others to select administrative personnel. On this occasion I did not. Is it hubris or necessity? I hope that practical necessity is directing my actions. I truly believe that Tobar can handle the administrative duties and responsibilities that are required for this position, and I don’t trust others to use the same criteria in their selection.

Looking back at this day, I am amazed by how much I depend on the skills and abilities of other people. I am literally helpless without their assistance. A humbling lesson; perhaps this is the point of today.

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